Im going out with this guy that was from my school but he is in the army and is going to go to iraq and wants us to have sex before he goes. We've been going out like 2 weeks now and I really like him. Is it to soon?
2007-06-13 19:31:25 · 24 answers · asked by Celene P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Celene,
I read your other question and I noticed you are 15.
Do you know that having sex before you reach 16 is illegal and can cause you to go to jail?
And the boy you like him so much can be charged for child molestation?
You are not a child sweetheart but as long as you are not 16, the law addresses you as a non adult.
So Don't do it.
Further more, You are a virgin right?
So it's gonna hurt a bit too. Did you know that?
And one more thing.
I'm sure although you are 15 you are a mature girl.
Do you really think knowing a guy for 2 weeks is enough to love them and make love?
I'm sure you don't need ME to tell you the answer to what I told you.
You can figure it out by yourself.
Take care and make the right decision sweetie
2007-06-13 21:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by The One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, go with your instincts. If you aren't ready and this really puts an incredible amount of pressure on you then it won't be an enjoyable experience for either of you - especially if its you're first time ever being with someone. He will feel like he pressured you into it or worse case scenario he will get what he wants, go to Iraq and forget all about you. I'm not saying he would do that, but its just the worst case scenario. My advice is sit down and discuss with him how you feel. If you aren't ready to have sex then tell him that and let him know that you still love him and that it will be so much more meaningful when it is the right time for both of you. If he truly loves you and cares about you, then he will understand and probably agree. Think about it girlfriend, who knows how long he will be gone and he will definitely be ready for some lovin' when he gets home if you know what I am talking about!!!! Whatever you do, be sure to use protection. You don't want to end up pregnant without him here to support you. Hope this was helpful.
2007-06-13 19:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have know many couples that have been ruined by having sex to soon. I would wait till marriage.
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2007-06-13 19:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by andresmdn44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18 - 21 -2 weeks is too soon
If you are 21-25 - 3 weeks may be ok....
If you are 26- 30 5- 7 dates with him
if you are 31- 40 3-5 dates.
Of course only if you want to have sex with him.
2007-06-13 19:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! And I only say that because he said he wants to have sex before he goes Iraq, that's his problem not yours. You shouldn't be pressured to have sex with someone just because he's leaving the country. One question you should ask yourself is how will you feel if you had sex with him and he never contacted you again? You would probably feel like crap, I know I would. Don't have sex with him just so that he could have one last hoorah before going away. You are better than that and deserve to be treated with respect. Your VJ (vagina) as Oprah would call it, is special and it should be seen as such and shared with someone who you feel is deserving of it.
2007-06-13 19:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ann D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a time such questions weren't even asked because we all assumed that we would save ourselves for marriage. But, just to answer your question, yes it is too soon. I'm a guy and for me, if I get a girl in bed in less than a month, she's easy. Personal advise though, wait it out. There's just so much more to it if you do so. Take care and God bless.
2007-06-13 19:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by jayp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur guy is just asking for sex, and u feel it rather too fast, then don't. period. sex today is a cliche. nobody thinks that the person they're asking to have it with has emotions.
think with ur heart first. if u feel ur not ready (since 2 weeks is really too early...)then don't do it. sex is a rite that means lots of love and compassion and passion and emotion. don't give it all in one stroke just yet. keep it first coz it'll be worth your wait when ur beautiful wedding comes along someday.
2007-06-13 19:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by RAZR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your position, I would have big issues with this. Him asking you to have sex with him before he goes is so unromantic- especially with the length of time you've been dating. I would be afraid that he's just trying to use you for sex before he leaves. Have enough respect for yourself to wait.
2007-06-13 19:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by sillybarista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can give you a standard answer about when you are ready to have sex with someone. Its a very personal decision. If you truly care about him and feel ready, then go for it. But don't have sex with him just because HE wants to. Just do whatever makes YOU happy because YOU are the one that has to deal with the choices you make. Good luck with your decision!
2007-06-13 19:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't listen to them. No, it is not too soon. What's wrong with sex? it's fun you guys both enjoy it. Unless you are a virgin, I don't see a big deal. He's serving our country, it could be he's last so give him some.
2007-06-13 19:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋