I am paying for my mom's phone bill and?

Question

she won't answer when I call. She's been hard on her luck and I'm a poor recent college grad. She has a stupid tracfone which she never answered or used, so I bought her a landline and pay the monthly bill (for roughly 4 months now). So I told her she needs to call me once a week (it was in a lighthearted manner). Well she NEVER calls me, and when I call her she won't answer or return my calls. It really aggravates me. She claims it says "unavailable" when I call. Well.. I think she should answer it anyway. If it's a telemarketer hang up. It kind of upsets me that I offered to pay for her phone and she won't even use it to talk to me! She calls my sister. I'm going to cancel it anyway because I can't afford it anymore. She knows I'm canceling it. But do you think it's rude that she won't answer or call me? Is that too much to ask?

Oh I knew I'd get some ***** saying something like that first girl. There were no limitations or demands. I simply got her the phone because I missed hearing from here. Therefore I lightheartedly said she should call me once a week. If she didn't call me I'd try to call her, but she won't even answer! I just find it really strange and hurtful. I got her the phone so I could talk to her! And she won't answer, call back or call me. It doesn't make sense. I never told her she had to take my calls or call me, but I think it would be nice considering the circumstances.

TERRY ARE YOU BLIND??? I SAID I CALL HER AND SHE WON'T ANSWER. DUH.

Answer 1

no, your not being rude. Anything that you cannot really afford and have to continue to pay monthly is not really a gift. Turn it off. Let your sister pay for a while. If she needs you, she will call.

It's hard to expect someone to call. You have that reminder every month that she has not called., Get rid of that burden.
If your mom wants to call you she will. Don't wait for it.

Everyone get calls from sales people. Just hang up. or do what I do.
I answer my phone Miami Whore house. They almost always just hang up. It works every time. And if there is some stupid who wants to ask questions about the business, just humor them and get a good laugh.

Answer 2

First, I can't fully understand your situation as my own beloved mom passed away 5 years ago this October. My husband has to be to bed early to get up early to be at work in a different city. My mom and I were both night owls and would often talk 1-3 hours late at night. But I do have some thought on this..

Did your mom and you have other issues before or other than the phone? If not, I agree 100%. I'd say, "Mom, I love, care and worry about you and I got the phone in hopes you felt the same and we could talk often and catch up. Since you seem to not want to do that, I am hurt and baffled, so as of next month, you will need to get your own phone."

HOWEVER, look deep in your heart before you do that. I say that, as what if your mom had an emergency and had to call 911 and had no phone and she, heaven forbid, died as a result of not having a phone to make that call for help. Could you live with that even though she is acting rude and childish? Just a very serious thing to think about. I do understand why you feel the way you do. Perhaps put that on your sister's consious since she seems to call her. Just say, "Mom calls you and we DO need a way to know she is safe, so you will need to take over the bill after next month" Sis should have been splitting it (bill) with you 50/50 from day one anyway!

Answer 3

Theres seems to be more to it than her not calling you. Are you sure there isnt some kind of problem between you either before or after this phone thing? If you have to tell your Mother to call you then there is an issue. Mothers are suppose to bug the hell out of you. If she is calling your Sister and not you, something else is going on.

Talk to your Sister and see if she knows anything. I would then talk to your Mom whether you found out anything because Im sure something else is going on whether you know it or not.

A phone is a phone, but your Mom is your MOM..

Answer 4

Of course cancel the phone if you can't afford it. Paying her bills was never your responsibility in the first place. Put the money you would have put toward the phone into therapy and find out why your mother doesn't want to talk to you.

Answer 5

If she does not want to answer your call, she does not want to answer your call. Don't take it personal, you know your mom & how she it. If she does not want to talk to you, be ok with it & let it go. She has probably been the same all your life. You have told her that you can not longer afford to pay for the phone. You can have it transferred into her name if she likes, otherwise turn it off.

Answer 6

well considering the fact that u are paying the bills your mom should call u or at least answer your calls. u r not asking for much i guess she should answer your calls. are u sure u and your mom don't have any misunderstandings or something?

Answer 7

Yeah, to all those who said a gift shouldn't come with limitations, that's true, but......come on mom, answer the damn phone. Common courtesy here. Its not to much to ask, your right.
Unless, of course mom may be coming down with dementia or something and is just plain confused.

Answer 8

YES!! its really rude.
shes taking advantage of you and you have every right to ask her to call you and since you are the one paying for it for HER phone bill, and she doesnt even call you once a week....what kind of mother is she?? you have every right to be annoyed/angry with her.

Answer 9

I dont get the question, are you saying that your mom cant get you a cell pone because she has not payed the bill? Please be more detailed, i will answer later

Answer 10

Your mom is being rude. Period. I don't think it's wrong to expect to hear from her or at the very least have her answer her damn phone. RUDE. Cancel that *****.