Bridesmaid advice?

Question

One of my best friends from hs is getting married and asked me to be a bridesmaid. She's Catholic, and I'm not even Christian, so I have no idea of what my responsibilities are. Can anyone help? Oh and also...as a bridesmaid, can I bring a date to her wedding? I'm engaged, and I'd like to go with my fiance...because I won't really know too many people at her wedding....but I also know that one of the groomsmen would be my escort down the aisle. At least that's what I've understood so far...

Answer 1

Basically the bridesmaids buy the outfits the bride chooses, attend the pre-wedding festivities (shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, any other connected parties), stand at the altar with the bride during the wedding, and be nice to people at the reception. You may be asked to help with some of the organization (addressing invitations, choosing or arranging flowers, etc.) or not, depending on your availability, the bride's tendancy to DIY, and your general enthusiasm for putting together someone else's wedding.

A lot of the question of what you'll specifically be doing as opposed to what bridesmaids do will be decided by the bride and you.

As to the question of a date for the wedding, any members of the wedding party who are married, engaged, living together, or in well-established relationships should be able to bring their significant others. Not to invite half of an established social unit to a couples-appropriate event is extremely rude. Hopefully the bride in question is aware of this etiquette rule...but make certain she is before bringing your fiance if he isn't directly invited.

Answer 2

Not sure about the Catholic correct protocol but that should be easy to check out. As long as your invite says you can (and if he's your Fiance then it should be OK) take your other half, yes your escort would be the Best Man and your first dance (after the bride and groom have started) would be with the Best Man (only needs to be a few laps of the dancefloor lol) but apart from this you can dance the night away with your man.

Just remember to do the old dress fluffing, checking make up and hair for photos that Bridesmaids are meant to do. Enjoy.

Answer 3

It is alright if you are not a christian. If they have communion you have a choice to either stay in the pew or go up to father with your arms crossed over your chest. He will just put his hand on your head and bless you. Don't be imbarassed it will be fine. I bet there with be more than just you at the wedding that isn't Christian. You may bring a date to the wedding. Lots of people do, and if you are not sure go and ask the bride I'm sure she will be more than happy to invite your fiance. You are correct a groomsmen will escort you down the isle.

Good luck I hope I helped!
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Answer 4

Each one of the bridesmaids walk down the aisle with one of the groomsmen in the beginning of the cermony. They stand up by the alter with the bride and groom when they get married. There should be a wedding rehersal before the wedding that will show you what you are supposed to do. It's really easy.

Also, if they are having a reception, you get to sit at the head table with the rest of the wedding party.

And yes, you can bring a date to the wedding. :) But you have to sit with the other bridesmaids, so he will be alone at the church and also when you're eating at the reception.

Answer 5

Your "duty" is to be her friend. Be supportive, attend the bridal showers that will be given- you should help with the opening, recording or passing of the gifts. At the wedding, you will walk with the groomsman up and down the aisle, you may sit next to him at the reception dinner and be expected to dance with him during the first dance.
You should be sent an invitation that includes a guest but you usually do not sit with your guest at dinner. You may want to ask this friend if having your fiance there is acceptable-and it should be! At the reception, after dinner, you may be needed for pictures but also have some time to be with your guest. Attending to the bride as in helping her bustle the train of her dress may be needed, depending on the size of her wedding party.
She is the star of the party, so being attentive to her needs is a nice touch for her wedding attendants.
Have fun!

Answer 6

I dont think there are any special requirements because she is catholic, but to be on the safe side you should ask her. Usually communion is taken though and in the catholic religion if you are not catholic then you dont partake of communion. Most brides tell her attendants they can bring a guest, but again on the safe side, ask her to make sure it is okay because she may not have it in her budget. In my opinion invitations sent to single people should always say "and guest". I think it is totally rude and inappropriate no to do so.

Answer 7

Sounds like the first time you have been a bride's maid. Read the etiquette advice. Bring your fiance and your responsibilities will be to take care of the bride- or anything else she assigns to you. Ask her, if she is one of your best friends, the communication should be there.

Answer 8

Yes you can bring your fiancee. Typically because you are a part of the wedding. Just as long as you don't bring friends because they weren't invited. Actually, if it were me, I'd ask your friend if she would let him come... I am sure she will.
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Answer 9

This site will spell out your duties.
http://www.bridesmaid101.com Your duties are listed there. As far as your guest goes, don't assume anything. I'm sure he has been included on the guest list, but you should ask first to avoid any confusion.

Answer 10

Ask the bride and groom.