First date, only got a kiss on the cheek (NO HATERS, JUST ADVICE PLEASE)?

Question

NO HATERS/JUST ADVICE TO BEAT HER AT HER OWN GAME OF "HARD TO GET", THANKS!

I'll make this short, met a girl at the beach Saturday, talked on phone since then, we both had one sex partner, she took 6 months to put out for her ex-bf, she picked me up today (Wed), we walked at the mall for 45 minutes, she seems very comfortable to talk about sex on the phone but didn't let me make my moves on her, I tried to get a kiss on the lips 4 times, she said she had to go (school tomorrow), she drove me home, last time before she dropped me off, she pointed at cheek, and that's all I kissed. I invited her to my place, she said we should hang out this weekend and that she had to go. I'm 18, she's 17 if that helps.

I'm frustrated because usually I can make out with a girl right when I meet them, this was a 2nd meeting & first date and I got NOTHING.

Question: What can I do to beat her at her own game, I heard that I shouldn't even try kissing her next time, what else might beat her at her own game of hard to get?

That's gay... I donno man. I'll take the advice to see her less (because I really don't have time with college and all) and not try to kiss her (this will be tougher)

My problem is that I'm in college, I already bust my *** to get exceptional grades in school, when I hang out with new girls I meet, I appriciate it if they would just cut the sh!t, there should really be a government funded program that gives students with 3.5+ GPA girls to have sex with any time because as fun as the hunt was when I was in high school, college is just different, you either get the grades or you get the girls, if your lucky, you get a girl who understands this and will keep you happy while you work hard in school. I had this with my last girlfriend but now I guess I have to work for this one. Wish me luck.

P.S. I'm not a jerk, I can love and have sex, I just need the sex upfront these days, working for it is fun, but not when you have tests every other day. Summer school. fcuk.

Answer 1

maybe you needed an altoid

Answer 2

So you found a decent girl, be glad. That is what you're wanting, right? Maybe she doesn't want to play games, just let her get to know you and know when she is ready it because she is really into YOU, not just finding some guy to hook on to.

Based on your update I hope she goes on to meet a nice guy, not one who sees women as a tool to be used to relieve his stress from trying to get good grades. Nor is sex a reward for something. By the way a high GPA does not make you a good person. With all that education your getting I would have thought you'd have learned this by now.

Answer 3

Are you interested in her or do you just want some satisfgaction? She might not be playing hard to get, she might just want to get to know you forst. I think if a girl is making out on the first date she is too fast.

Sorry for the blow to the ego, but cool you jets a little. Don't try so hard to kiss her, it might be a turn off for her, or a big flashing red sign to not trust you. Hold her hand put your arm around her shoulder, open the door, and the best way to get a girl to kiss you is to listen to whatever she says, whatever comes outof her mouth, really pay attention to, if she feels like she has your undivided attention that is a turn on, she doesn't want to compete with your winkie!

Answer 4

woaaah cowboy...hang on a second...just because she has had one sex partner dosen't mean she will do something with you on yalls first date.and just becuase she wouldn't kiss you dosen't mean she is playing hard to get...maybe she isn't the type to go around kissing everybody...she might actually be a good girl and not a s.l.u.t. jsut give it time...and DON'T try to beat her at her own game big big big mistake buddy..thats just asking for an end to the relationship. Ask her about it next time you guys talk...believe or not girls like for guys to be straight up and honest and to speak their minds..not beat around the bush....so just say " Are you not comfortable with my kissing you yet? " If she says "no" then say ok...let me know when you are so i don't keep trying and you make me feel like a jacka.S.s. (but be funny and nice about..not a jerk) if she says she is comfortable with you kissing her then ask why she won't let you. whatever you do don't pressure her...thats def. a big mistake.

but good luck hope this was useful!

Answer 5

From what you describe this girl was comfortable talking about sex on the phone but when in person she was uncomfortable with with any physical contact from you. First it's obvious she isn't physical immediately if she waited for six months with her ex-boyfriend. It's not YOU she really has shared her thoughts on this but it seems you are more willing to have first date physical pleasures but she is not. From what you have written it doesn't seem like she is teasing you but just not comfortable yet therefore I agree that this weekend or your next meeting don't attempt to kiss but if you feel she is loosening up a bit with you then just say,"hey, I like you and really want to kiss you but only if you want me too". If you like this girl you will respect her feelings but if you just want someone to be physical with you might need to find someone else. I think you must care about this girl to be wanting to know how or what to do next therefore for a moment turn the tables and think about how you would feel if you didn't feel like kissing someone right then not because you were playing hard to get but for many reasons. If she didn't like you she wouldn't be going out with you again so you need to think about your feelings and what it is this girl means to you? Good Luck.

Answer 6

maybe it's not game. Maybe she's just trying to get to know you before the two of you start sucking face. not every girl is going to let you swap spit with her right off the bat. get use to getting to cold shoulder because despite with your guy friends might say it happens way more often then you hear about. Beside what's your rush? Just take it slow & get to know this girl some. don't you remember "good things come to those who wait" If you really want to know what's up with her confront her on it. If you feel confortable enough to want a kiss from her then you should be able to ask her why she snubbed you off like that.

Answer 7

sex is not every thing the best relships are built slowly. don't rush her wen she is ready she will let you know. besides you chest met face to face. If you relay like some one you should not mater if you kiss on the lips your have sex. Go out with her and have fun show her a good time take her to a move and pay for it. worry a bout the small stuff later

Answer 8

no offense, but maybe she isnt playing hard to get. Maybe she thinks that you are just after "one thing". And she just wants to make sure that you are going to stick around after you get it. I know I wouldnt have kissed you on the first date, I just dont feel comfortable making out too early in a relationship. The good ones are worth working for.

Answer 9

Well.. If I was her, I'd react the same way. A kiss on the cheek means she likes you, right? Maybe not in a boyfriend girlfriend way but atleast she digs your personality and stuff.

Just get to know eachother a bit better, she may be shy or scared she'll get hurt.

Hope this helps! =)

Answer 10

Did it occur to you that maybe she's not "playing hard to get", she's trying to avoid guys who are all "wham, bam, thank you ma'am"?

If all you're after is sex, don't bother with this girl. Sounds to me like she's got enough self-respect that she isn't going to put out for just anybody she thinks is hot, she wants a relationship. You, on the other hand, sound like you just want to score.

Answer 11

Stop. Look Listen. You might just have found a real lady. The kind you may want to take home to mama when you grow up a lot. Sounds like you just want to get in her britches.