i try my very best 2 keep her happy but sometimes i do backchat her but shez like 24/7 swearing at me i dont know why......sometimes i feel as if im her step daughter....im 21 now & iv been tolerating her swears 4 the last 5,6 yrs & cant take it anymore........plz help!!!
2007-06-13 17:48:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her you find her language offensive ........ or present her with a swear jar , keep her swearing , and get yourself away from her foul mouth with a nice holiday in spain with the proceeds .........
2007-06-14 04:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by england 4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. It's not so easy. as with many of these types of questions, I'm sure we don't know the whole story. Where is your dad Nelly? Does your mother have a drink or drug related problem? Are the family finances out of control?
It could be that your mum isn't swearing at you. I don't doubt for a moment that she loves you very much, but rather she is swearing at the world because of her current problems.
What to do? Not sure. She may need to seek professional help. there is no shame at all in this, and the priority must be that she feels better soon.
Why not a mini break. A low cost holiday for two to three days to get away from it all.
Failing that, maybe just helping around the house, plus a little present (chocs, perfume) might do the trick.
2007-06-14 01:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by Barry K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to go. Your mother has been putting up with you for far too long and she wants her space. At 21, you should be long gone, at least from the time you either go to university or started working a full-time job. Go make your own rules in your own house and then you won't hear anything except the people living upstairs boinking or the next-door neighbors' dog barking...
2007-06-14 03:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her.
She thinks you are old enough to hear all this and you are, but that doesn't mean you want to. You need to tell her to talk to you like you are her daughter (which u r) and not like her homies from the street lol.
Half of it is you, you have to try to talk to her nicely too.
(no more backchat)
2007-06-14 00:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by m○○♥m○○ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to move out. You're old enough to get out on your own. Is it her house? She can say or do whatever she wants to in her own home. You will probably find that you enjoy having your own place, it is a fun time of life for a 21 year old.
2007-06-14 01:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try swearing yourself to her and see how she likes it.
Tell her that you only did it so she can feel how it feels.
If she is a drinker than it may be best to move on.
Dad or a mothers friend may help to.
In any case your mother should be soulveing your problems.
2007-06-14 01:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Frank W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 21. take your toys and leave.
if she cant act different than stay away from her. you wont change her. you have to decide if you want to take it or move on.
just because she is your mom doesnt give her any right to treat you bad.
2007-06-14 01:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time to move out and see her once a year. i can't stand mine cos she gives advices all the time and yells and alls me and my children bad names. see her once a year and when call just tell what i need and hang up
2007-06-14 01:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her its bothering you. She won't get the picture until you confront her. If she doesn't listen, well she obviously has some issues. I wish you luck!
2007-06-14 01:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out or don't associate with her. You are a grown up, you don't have to be around people you cannot tolerate, even your mother.
2007-06-14 00:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋