Im gonna go on a trip to stay with my family for a few weeks. Let me say that this was all my choice and no one is putting me in this situation. I dont get to see my family very often, so this is really important to me. But my uncle is a jerk and treats me like crap, and I will be staying with them because my aunt will be having her 3rd baby while im up there, so she wants me to help her since im really good with kids. I get really uncomfortable around my uncle. My parents know how he treats me, and my dad talked to him about it. My dad said that if he ever does anything again, slap or punch or knock him down. When a random person makes me feel bad, I defend myself and talk back. But when my uncle does it, i feel terrible because he is "family". Should I stay with my dads uncle instead? I really dont want to make them run back and forth to take me from my dads uncle and back, but I dont wanna deal with MY uncle for 3 whole weeks!
2007-06-13 17:47:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my parents wont be there, im going on this trip alone. other than my uncle, who is my das sisters husband, not my dads brother, the rest of my family is great and will protect me no matter what.
2007-06-13 18:00:28 · update #1
One thing struck me. You don't defend yourself with your uncle because he's "family". It doesn't seem that the "family" status has any affect on how he treats you. Regardless of the relationship, if someone treats you with disrespect, you have a right to stand up for yourself.
Having said that, if you know you're walking into a bad situation and you have an alternative, choose the alternative.
2007-06-13 17:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Aunt that you are sorry, but you have other arrangements about where to stay while you are there. Do not ever be alone in a room with your uncle if he makes you that uncomfortable. If your other uncle won't let you stay with them, get money to stay in a hotel. I'm sure that if you don't have the money, your parents will loan/throw/give the money to you. They care about your well-being-and good for you for telling them what is going on with your uncle. Most people (kids/teenagers/adults) do not have the guts to do that!
2007-06-14 01:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by Chris G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you are choosing to go and stay with aunt and uncle, no-one is forcing you. So accept the consequences of your choice - you must deal with this cowardly bully of an uncle. If you don't you will chicken out in every challenging situation you encounter in future.
You don't have to hit him unless it's for self-defence; just don't let him push you around emotionally.
2007-06-14 05:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fathers advice is wrong, you should never physically attack another person. It sounds like he is also afraid of his brother and is dropping the ball with you. Tell your aunt as much as you would like to help her out, you cannot put yourself in the position of your uncles abuse. Then stay with your other family and stick to your guns. Where is your mother in all this? Ask her to help you. Family or not, he does not have any business treating you like crap but it sounds like the family just lets him get away with it.
2007-06-14 00:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please, don't stay with your uncle. If a problem arises and your dad have to comfort your uncle again and if a nasty fight erupts... the family may blame you. Therefore you should avoid any problems, try to stay somewhere else safe.
Just ignore him. The more attention you give him (by having your dad to talk to him) the more he is going to misbehave. Whatever his problems is it something he has to content with, not you. Go home and have a great time.
2007-06-14 01:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if u feel uncomfortable around him u shudnt put yourself in that position
your dad should understand and if u think its best 4 u im sure your dad wont mind running around
2007-06-14 00:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by tido 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't put up with him. plus he could be dangerous. go with your intuition. I'll bet your good uncle will help you get there and back every day.
2007-06-14 00:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by slippped 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have it straight out with ur uncle as soon as you get there..tell him ur there to help out,not there to put up with his crap..and tell him he'll be puttin others out if they have to run you backwards n forwards..he should be grateful for your help.
2007-06-14 00:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋