to make a long story short my husband's sister hates me and we do not speak. after my last question i realize i am going to have to forgive her without an apology and move on but i don't know what to do about our upcoming wedding. we were already married in a civil ceremony and she manipulated her way into being a part of that and ended up having my husband and i dreading our big day because of the drama she brought to the table. i am just wondering if it would defeat the purpose of forgiveness to not invite her to our wedding next year that is intended to be a celebration with all the people who love and support us, which she does not, or if it makes since to make myself happy and with my husband's support not invite her. i really don't know what to do, i'm defintely torn but i kind of feel like this is one thing i shouldn't sacrifice on and i don't really want her negativity around me. also what about her being involved in my future children's lives if she doesn't grow up.
2007-06-13 17:21:51 · 6 answers · asked by hoping_for_happiness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let your husband decide since it's his sister. If it was your sister I would say you decide. If your sister-in-law is that bad your husband wont want her there either.
If he does want her there and you don't let her it will cause a problem. He should tell her why she isn't invited if that is what he chooses.
Good luck!!! I do not get along with my sister in-law but I have learned to deal with her since my husband loves her.
2007-06-13 17:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it, don't invite her, you will regret it believe me. I've been in similar situations and believe me I regret trying to apologize to people who don't give a dam especially when I know I didn't do anything wrong yet still I apologized trying to be the better man I guess. Sometimes it's better to leave things the way they are, maybe let her come to you, don't be feeling bad when you know you ain't done nothing wrong. It's your big day, you don't want negativety around on such a special day. I'm getting married soon and I sure ain't inviting haters to my wedding, don't want no evil eyez if you know what I mean, keep it real! Who cares what she thinks, it's your day, enjoy it!
2007-06-13 17:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by LATIN POWER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your husband sister --your life time is with him she is blood sister yes invite her ..do not be the small person so she does not like you- you keep your distant from her mengle around to were you do not haft to deal with her she makes a seen so be it the other support you then she makes her self look small not you -- do not keep away from future children either your mother what more then a mother love over a aunt who will not be there in there life every day like mom
2007-06-13 17:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough situation. Invite her out of courtesy. You don't have to say anything to her, but it's just stooping down to her level if you don't invite her. And who knows? If you invite her she might actually appreciate it and start talking to you.
Good luck! ;-)
2007-06-13 17:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is, just ignore her. Don't give her the power to control you and you will find she doesn't matter at all.
2007-06-13 17:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-06-13 17:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋