My boyfriend loves to give me oral sex is like his main priority.. He does it so much that I have at least 2 orgasms and by the time we have sex is hard for me to have an orgasm with him..But he seems to enjoy it so much that I feel bad telling him dont go down just lets have some forplay and just do it.. I dont want to hurt his ego I am ok with it but I feel bad many times because I cant have hardly any orgasms when he is inside me and I just cant say it to him dont want to hurt his feellings. Any sugestions??
2007-06-13 17:20:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could get married.
2007-06-13 17:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only answer is to tell him. 1stly if you don't tell him he can never change. There are guys out there that have fragile egos that you can't take commands, or suggestions. Trust me these are not the guys for you. Sex is important in a relationship, but communication is even more important. So just explain it to him. Tell him you've only got a few orgasms in you. Guys can understand this concept. Most only have 1in them anyway. Then tell him you'd prefer your vaginal orgasms to oral orgasms. They're more powerful, last longer, and feel better. Guys can understand this concept. We like fellatio, but we love sex. You just have to sell it to him in a way he understands. Also you should probably not bring this up during sex, but more as a prelude too it. It's much easier to talk to us when we're splitting blood between the 2 brains. Above all you have to have good communication in a relationship. If all else fails around you and have some to talk to about it, life's not all the bad. :-]> Good luck, and good orgasm.
P.S> You poor thing. You only get 2 orgasm during sex. Aww. There are woman starving (for orgasms) in america. Appreciate what you have!!!
P.S.S> Maybe you have more than 2 orgasms in you. Maybe he just not good enough to get them out of you. Time to tell your man to step up his game. That way you can have your cake, and he can eat it too.
2007-06-14 00:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Antny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. If you're old enough to have sex, then you're old enough to be honest with your partner. Tell him what you like and what you don't like. Tell him how much you like receiving oral sex SOMETIMES, but there are other times when you'd like to do something different. Also, there is nothing wrong with not having orgasm simultaneously: you need not feel guilty for having orgasms during oral sex and then not having them when he has his climax inside you. Many women would be grateful to have a lover that is as determined to please them as yours is determined to pleasure you.
More to the point, there are practical ways of getting around the oral issue during those times when you just want to get down to business. First and foremost, you can get on top of him. Most men love being ridden by an aggressive, passionate woman and will not even begin to protest. Many women, having greater control of movement in this position, experience multiple orgasms in a way that was not possible with the man on top. Of course, it is also not uncommon for women to manually stimulate their clitorises to enhance the pleasure of this position even further.
Good luck! Now go have fun!
2007-06-15 12:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never really had a problem with having multiple orgasms, but... what I would do is after you orgasm once, simply sit up a little bit, and pull him towards you.
There have been times when I really don't want my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me, so I just simple sit up, and kind of... LIGHTLY pull him by the back of his neck towards me!
If he still doesn't get the point, than just tell him why! It's not going to kill his ego, just tell him that you want to orgasm with him inside of you, together, than just orgasming on your own.
Use protection, and good luck ;)
2007-06-14 00:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by shootsamshoot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls don't have orgasm through normal intercourse. It's usually the stimulation of the clitoris, which can be easily done by manual or oral sex. He can use manual during intercourse, it may help. Also, he could get you to the point of orgasm THEN start coitus and finish through.
As for your situation, just tell him, he'll understand and it won't hurt his feelings. He can still do it, just don't let him do it for so long.
2007-06-14 00:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you also love to receive oral sex? Let him enjoy and you as well. Slowly you will also start getting orgasms frequently if he wants more and more. You also do the same with him and see how much he get tired.
2007-06-14 00:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny its usually the other way around! hahaha its cool though. I would maybe try to reverse the role become the leader. Mess with him a little and the just hop on lol, or talk a little dirty once he is into it for a minute tell him you want him now like you have to have him in you. do you know what I'm saying?
2007-06-14 00:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by Maddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to use his finger on you while having sex. That way you will get your third orgasm, and very likely will come together!
2007-06-14 00:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably trying to really satisfy you with his mouth, to take pressure off of having to satisfy you with his p3nis. He probably figures if you're already satified, if he cums too quickly, no harm-no foul. Next time he get you to the point you're going to orgasm, take charge and get him inside you and let him finish you off that way. Once he's used to it, he'll want to do it like that everytime.
2007-06-14 01:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kalamazoo Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. As a man, I can tell you that as long as I am having sex, I am generally pretty happy. So if you are like "Let's just get to the sex" I really wouldn't mind.
2007-06-14 00:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by outlaw_tattoo_biker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. You can still stroke his ego while being honest. "Oh honey, you're so good at that. But by the time we get to the sex I'm all worn out. How about you take it easy on me tonight."
2007-06-14 00:25:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋