Hi I am just wondering why is it that my boyfriend like to grab my hair and sometimes it might even hurt a little bit when we are making love... He loves to spank me which I also like I think thats kind of cute.. He always complements my big butt but is been a few times that when I am on top he likes to pull on my hair. Not hard but if I let him continue he could pull it hard. My hair is not that long but is past my bra line. And I just dont get it why lately he feels like pulling on my hair.. Any coments to this?? I am curious
2 nights ago when he was pulling on my hairI gently moved his arm away from my head and he looked surprised that I did that..
2007-06-13 16:55:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's for control....tell him you don't need to be controled that way ( or ANY WAY) tell him it hurts when he pulls your hair and if he feels the need to pull something...tell him to pull on the bed sheets...(tell him the control thing has to stop...)
2007-06-13 16:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As an older GENTL-man I to like to do things that have made the trip to O0vile a little better for her. If its hair pulling/butt slapping/ or slipping a pinky into the browneyed daisy..
Our wyereds are mostly for our partners. a lite hand on the offrnding hand then moving it to where you want it is a nice lesson.
2007-06-14 00:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by henry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men typically try on their current girlfriends what has worked for them with other girls, or something they heard works, or something their friends tell them works. The fact is that many women like to have their hair pulled during sex or foreplay. If that's not your cup of tea, no big deal, all you have to do is tell him that it doesn't really do anything for you and he'll most likely stop.
2007-06-14 00:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by Clawndike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's something that some guys like to do when having sex. However, if you don't like it, TELL him. Tell him what really turns you on and let him know what you like the most. Most guys really want to please their women during sex. So if he knows what you like most, chances are he'll probably try that. And maybe that will move him away from the hair pulling.
2007-06-14 00:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by J M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dated a number of women that really get off on having their hair pulled as a way to dominate them during sex. If you like to surrender during sex, look at it as a way of doing that.
2007-06-16 01:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some guys, long flowy hair is sexy and a huge turn on. I know my guy loves mine, although he doesn't grab it, but likes to touch it. Just calmly and kindly tell him that you don't mind, but to be a bit gentle because it does tend to hurt sometimes. He will understand as long as you don't forbid it.
2007-06-13 23:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by artutina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a form of control, it makes him feel like he has some kind of power over you - and that helps him get off. watch out for him
2007-06-14 00:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by lstbob51 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him it hurts and you don't want him to do it anymore. Simple as that. He probably just gets caught up in the moment and grabs ahold of it.
2007-06-14 00:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by ssmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called rape senario, he wants to feel like hes in control and like hes raping you so he grabs your hair as a sign of control and when you took it away from him he lost all sense of that fantasy thats why he looked shocked.
2007-06-13 23:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by specialistics 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
hmm... well i dont know about hair pulling ! my boyfrend never did that !!
he does like to play wid my hairs when we'r just lying together and talking !!
2007-06-14 00:01:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sidu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋