How do you know if a relationship is for forever? I'm sure everyone that gets married believe that THEIR relationship is forever and that they have found their true love but then end up in divorce. How can you tell when its true and how can you move away from the fear that its not and that it might not work out.
2007-06-13 16:44:14 · 7 answers · asked by capoeirista 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No one ever knows if their marriage is forever. you just have to trust and believe that it will last until death do you part as it says in the vows. We know that is not always the case because a lot of people get married for wrong reasons and then some people are not willing to work at their marriage. If you are having doubts from the beginning then I would suggest that you get premarital counseling and see if this is something that you want to do. Marriage takes a lot of communication, making compromises and basically both partners giving 100% to each other. Both partners has to love and want to be together. It is normal to have fear when making major decisions in our lives, but if you both believe in and put GOD at the head of your marriage then there is a chance it will work. If you know of anyone who has been married a long time, I'm quite sure they're gonna tell you that they has been through a lot but worked it out because they loved each other enough to make it work.
2007-06-13 18:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by venita.bryant0149@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. That's the short and simple answer. I was 100% sure my marriage would last forever and that's why I married my husband. He left me after 5 years. We just couldn't get along and we had all sorts of problems (not money troubles, which newly married couples often have). There were red flags prior to the wedding, but I didn't believe they'd impact us once we were married. Mistake #1! His mother and I never got along but I believed that I was marrying HIM, not his family. Wrong, wrong, wrong! I know I'm not perfect and I did things wrong too, but I was willing to work on them and he wasn't. He just left one day. So there you have it. You can only control what YOU do, not what anyone else does, and that includes your spouse. Try to keep communication honest and open and work out problems as they come up. Be willing to compromise and learn to pick your battles. These are all things I will remember if I ever get married again.
2007-06-13 17:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to trust/sense/know that the person you're with is committed to working out any problems you might have. You need to make sure you aren't marrying for petty reasons because something awful could happen tomorrow and your spouse is paralyzed from the neck down for the rest of their life. If you can honestly say you would still stay with the person, i think that is a good sign that it can last.
2007-06-13 16:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no guarantees in life. You just have to take a leap of faith. No one thought my marriage would last ( including me ).It's been rough at times, but if you believe in your vows, you work through the rough times.
2007-06-13 19:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one knows if it's gonna last forever.eventhough you've been dating him for so long. life is just like a drama, but we'll never knows how it ends,it's not like such a romantic movie which always ends with happiness.the point is u make ur own decision, u make ur own faith.if u determine to be happily ever after,so it will be.but if u dont, dont expect too much.so the role is yours.
2007-06-13 19:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by doc_cook 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study the astrological signs beforehand as certain cultures do to assure a successful relationship.
2007-06-13 16:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
you just have to follow your heart and have faith.
2007-06-13 16:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋