teen in destress!!!!!!?

Question

im so stressed i cutmyself major things are happening umm also dont tell me to go to a doctor or a counsler cuz a i have no doctor and b i am homeschooled i am a straigh a b student i rele need help what the hell is happening to me :(

i want to stop but i cant i keep doing it it wont stop its like im in a car and its stuck on accelerated on a busy highway or like smoking once u try it ur going to never stop..but the thing is im only 13 and i want to stop please tell me how to stop from hurting myself please :'(

Answer 1

You have taken the first step by admitting you have a problem. The next step is to tell your parent/s and enter counseling to learn more about your self, and why you are doing this behavior. Please get help. Counselors are very caring, supportive persons who can help you sort out your issues and help you find solutions.

I wish you all the best.

Answer 2

Sweetie, you really need to take the next step and tell an adult that you trust will be there for you. Talk w/ a parent, aunt, uncle or even an older cousin. Or, if you attend church, speak w/ the minister or youth leader. Regardless of who you speak w/, they will most likely tell your parents, but stay strong! You will need your family to help you get over this hurdle! You must be seeking help by asking this question, so I'm advising you to continue seeking. Yes, your parents will prolly take you to a doctor or counselor, but it's a process that may need to be done. Stick it out, sweetie, there is hope!

Answer 3

you aren't giving us allot to go on.it could be you are turning in to a young woman, that can be a tough time.not only for you but for every body else in your family. if that's the case, talk to your mother, if not her at least an older woman, some one that you admire and respect.home schooling sounds like your parents may be a little over protective but just want the beast for you.talk to your parents if you feel like you can, if not try talking to your grandparents. you would be surprised at the in sight they can give you.they may tell ya a long stories about when they were your age,but if ya listen ya might find the answer ya looking for.and the stories could be pretty interesting. hay they have been around a long time,seen it all and probable done a lot of it,even if they wont admit it.

Answer 4

stop cutting yourself, it's not helping... it's probably adding to your stress. You're obviously unhappy. Get to the root of your unhappiness... are you lonely? Are your parents mean? Do you not have friends? What is it that is bothering you? When you deal with the real issues, you can get rid of the emotional pain... which will help you to stop creating physical pain. Find a new outlet for stress... start running, painting, crying, whatever keeps you from cutting.

Answer 5

I went through the same things that you are going through right now. What you need to do is calm yourself and de-stress by doing things that you enjoy doing! Put all of your feelings of stress, despair, hopelessness, and any other emotions into something positive!

Try keeping a journal of your feelings, and if you really want to be creative turn those feelings into lyrics or poetry!

I really think that you should discuss these things with an adult that you FEEL YOU CAN TRUST, for me it was my aunt, and she NEVER told my parents anything that I did not wish for them to know!

Answer 6

you are soo young... and shouldn't be feeling this way.. but does it happen?.. yes... and whatever it is that is making you feel this way is something that you should possibly staying away from..

whenever i am upset - I have confidantes that i can talk to people I trust.. but most of the time i like writing or drawing.. getting my emotions out on paper... whenever something bothers me.. i decide to think about it but not all that much.. write it out and get it all out of the way and therefore i don't have to bottle it up and wait for things to make me explode..

I also workout or dance... listening to music that makes me move & feel good... then listen to more music, watch a movie, or take time for any hobby.. (focus energy on something else) sometimes i clean.. maybe not something u want to do... but is just another example- sometimes i do that first.. because when i am really upset even my surroundings sometimes tend to show it.. as i clean i not only feel that my mind clears as i do it. since i am sorting out my thoughts but when i am done and step back to look at my work i feel great accomplished and like i could actually do whatever it is that i think that i could do.. sometimes it is just envolves remodeling sort of.. changing the look of my space no spending money.. just symbolic of a new beginning or trying something new.

if i do all of these.. i never even get close to even considering something like self multilation.. let's think about it.. doing more harm because you are feeling bad... no one likes feeling bad or pain normally.. so why choose to add more.. it just doesn't make sense.. if something/someone made you sad or hurt.. don't add more.. add good to feel better and then a little extra to do away with whatever it was.. =] then its like nothing ever happened you are brand new and can await the better things that are coming- since i am sure eventually there will be something that might even make whatever was bad seem worth it.. sometimes in life we have to experience bad things or hurt- in order to get to the good-- to value and appreciate it.. just because you are going through a storm now doesn't mean that there isn't a beautiful blue sky in the forecast.. definately look for things that make you happy and take you away from whatever is hurting you and hold on to that with all your might.. be a warrior and stand up to that which you don't want... because you have to be stronger you are stronger... and the fact that you want it already makes you a winner. things don't change or happen over night so getting help might also not be a bad idea.. because i don't know your specific siutation but sometimes there are somethings you can't do all alone or could get done faster/easier if you had someone helping you so don't shut it down.. consider it.. also just like your desire to change- you have to have the desire to let someone in and help you. someone to keep you on track. stay strong.. things do get better it might not seem that way from where you are but from EXPERIENCE once you pass that threshold things do seem very different on the other side.. when you are older and situations change- and you also grow/mature.. obstacles later on in life will seem so much easier to face.. since life is full of them.. just keep fighting and DON'T GIVE UP!!!

Answer 7

the only thing i can tell u is 2 go n get help n mayb u should go 2 a regular skool so dat u can interact wit kids ur age

Answer 8

I can relate to you ok this is a litle about me and why I cut
read this and I know that you do not want to tell your parents but try to tell some one ok I know it is hard you sound smart you get all a's and b's i wish that I did when I was your age I am not 26

Some times I help people so much I dont take time for my self and that is when I become sick.I have been hurt and taken advantage many times before. The first time I was hurt was by my live in nanny she molested me. That is when I started to do self distructive behvior.Cutting my self I mean That live in nanny also started me on drugs. Then when I got older things got way way worse. I have used cutting in the past to release all of the built up and over whelming emotions that were inside of me. Cutting for me was a temporary relief. When I had cut I would focus on the physial pain and that took my mind off of the rather mental pain and what was bugging me.I do not know if this makes any sience to any one who might read this.I struglle each day not to cut. I have panic attacks constantly , flash backs every night, and night mares every night, and I dishosiate alot . Each day is a struggle not to cut. I hope one day to go back and finnish my Curtified Nusing Assistant Degree Even though people in some places on the internet thing that I did not even go to shool for it but I really did. For the first time in my life I am doing much better I have not cut in 6 months, I have not been in the hospital in 6 months and I have not used in 6 months and had stable housing for more than 2 years and now living in a safe apartment and have had this apartment for about 4 months. I am openminded to and if any one that can give me any advice they are welcome to commet and if any one needed my advice and if I can help them with some thing they are more than welcome to ask me. If I can help I will. I can just talk to you online. I know that a lot of people did that for me here on the internet in the past and on certan forums and in certan chat rooms and that has helped me so much in the past. I am verry thankfull to them and there advice and their help in my time in need. If you feel like cutting or killing your self please get some help I know it might be hard but try to. I know that it might feel like you might never get threw what you are going threw but you will adventually it just might not feel like it in the molment. the hardest part for me is getting threw the molment and not do somthing impulsively like cutting. I had to be reminded of that the other night to call a hot light I had the resources but I just forgot to use them some one had to tell me that on line I could not think strate that was like on June 4 2007

if you dont deal with the emotions you will eventually cut so much some one will find out you have the choice now to tell some one before they find out so you can tell them and get help instead of help coming to you also one day you might end up cutting deeper and deeper and you might die I do not want that to happen to you and I am sure that your parents would rather help you with your cutting that see you dead one day or have you more of an emotional reck than you are now like I said I am 26 and when i was your age I was a mess I did not think that I would ever get better you will be strong ok things will get better you can always talk to me ok please try to stop it has been a battle for me

Answer 9

you have got to let your parents know you are doing this to yourself..it is a problem that you won't be able to stop on your own..you are gonna need some help

Answer 10

get yourself help. its out there and you deserve more then you are doing to you. get someone to help you see up an appt. i am tell you that you can not do this alone. i have known a few kids that were cutters, they are doing well and so proud of themselves. getting help is alot less painful then hurting you!!!!!!!