So basically, here's what's happening. I haven't dated alot of people, alot of this is because I won't attach myself to available people, and if someone does show interest in me, I won't accept it, and I run. I have alot of trust issues and issues w/ getting close to people.
So now, I just had a date w/ this guy. He's really sweet and we seem to have alot in common. BUT I can already feel myself pulling away from this chance. We're supossed to go out again this weekend and for no apparent reason, I'm dreading it. I'm so sick of being alone! I had many more issues in the past and alot of them have faded but I can't get away from this feeling. Does anyone have any advice on how I can start getting over this? And maybe how I can calm myself a little before I go back out with this guy?
2007-06-13 15:38:13 · 6 answers · asked by Lady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whatever u dont need a shrink. bunch of people have issues like this. the thing is that these trust issues and the fear of getting attached is not doing anything for you. you will miss out on so many great things if u keep pushing people away and not giving a chance to people. give the guy a chance see how it goes.
2007-06-13 15:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am dating a guy who sounds just like you. He seems to have dating issues and doesn't trust. He has been in 2 long term bad relationships. One in which he had been cheated on. I really care for this guy but its hard to care for a guy who has a wall up like you seem to. For this poor guys sake, give him a fair chance. Sometimes we have to take a chance. Don't let your past ruin your future. Remember there are some decent guys out there. This may be one of them. And you may never know unless you give it a try.
2007-06-13 15:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by JMR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand this is easier said than done, I really do, but the only way to get past your issues is to jump right in. Be aware of how you're feeling and why and fight yourself every step of the way when you feel yourself trying to shrink away. That's your only hope.
2007-06-13 15:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Gibbsy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay maybe it's time to take a few steps back, stop dating for a few months and spend sometime with yourself just sorting everything out. If that doesn't work talk to a counselor.
2007-06-13 15:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like this guy go...... and if he likes you , well he wont let you push him away. talk to him. I think you need to see if you want to run before you start. if you only had one date how do you know he can't be trusted ? how do you know he's not going thought the same thing?
2007-06-13 15:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by sweetthings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a psychiatrist.
2007-06-13 15:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋