and alot of the time i think he pretents not to be home and dosen't answer. i don't understand this behavoral. i don't complain to him or anything ! i love him very much and worry too!!
2007-06-13 15:35:31 · 16 answers · asked by lulupywacket 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can relate. Just stop calling him. See how long it takes for him to notice. He takes for granted that you'll be there for him whenever he needs something but doesn't think that you might like it if he took an interest in you. He's caught up in his own life and just doesn't think. Love him anyway. Stop calling him. I suspect you'll hear from him before too long wondering if you're alright.
2007-06-13 15:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, first let me say, nice hair.
does he engage in conversation with you when you call him? If so, then, he probably looks forward to your calls. If he doesn't really talk that much when you call maybe you should call less often, once a week, or once a month. Maybe he just doesn't have much to say, because you talk with him so frequently. If you spaced out the calls more, he'd have more to talk about.
And maybe he just loses track of time.
Or maybe he's got a woman or two.
Or maybe he's going through some rough times and needs to get through them on his own.
Maybe he knows you'd worry and so he doesn't want to worry you.
He knows you love him and that's what matters.
Instead of calling him, why don't you sign him up to receive a desert of the month, or give him a gift certificate to his favorite restaurant so he can take a friend out. Or get him concert tickets. You know, just once in a while, like once a month. And just don't expect anything in return but know that you're doing something to show him you love him.
2007-06-13 22:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Squeak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old he is but I encourage you to put everything that you feel and that concerns you into a letter that he may read. Mail it to him. Don't criticize him in any way or make him feel bad. Tell him that you don't understand why he has distanced himself from you and that you feel hurt by this. Tell him that not understanding why he doesn't communicate with you is tearing you apart. Ask if there is anything you can do or NOT do to help the situation. Tell him that you are worried about this behavior and that you love him with all of your heart. I hope you can get through to him. Good luck, my prayers are with you.
2007-06-13 22:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by BLM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever u get ahold of him, tell him exactly how u feel. It will work. Everytime I have a problem w/something my mom did, I come clean. Besides her being my mom she's my best friend. Not all kids are the same u have to remember he is a boy so he probably doesn't feel comfortable talking to u about much stuff. Just be patient and let him know how u feel. Good luck.
2007-06-13 22:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom, you know I am on disability for Social anxieties, my second biggest problem besides going out in public is being social-phobic in making phone calls. Sure I need your love and care, but I have a problem, you may not yet understand. I'm afraid you have to make the calls and force the calls upon me! I'm sorry I love you very much, I sit many times hoping someone would call me, but I'm to scared to call myself and to force my problems on family and friends, I fear they will avoid me in the future! Just because I don't call dose not mean I don't need you! I need you more than ever right now, but I have an illness!
Why do you want me to feel guilty. I just got divorced, my life has been destroyed, my son is demanding, my daughter won't talk to me and I'm crying myself to sleep every night!
Sissy, please help her understand!
Love your,
Son
2007-06-14 00:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I come from 6 boys and 3 girls and this is what happens. If my mother doesn't hear from her girls for more than 2 days she lets us know she is angry. Even if one of us leaves her a message that says "I'm alive, talk soon" that is all she asks. If she doesn't hear from one of the boys in 4 or 5 days (she says boys will never call like they should so twice a week is all she asks of them) she lets them know.
You need to let him know. If you are expecting a daily phone call you are kind of asking too much. Talk to him and work out a schedule. If that doesn't work, try not calling him and see how long it takes for your phone too ring.
2007-06-13 22:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being paranoid. You will always be his mom, unless there is something you aren't telling us, he still loves you. He is just enjoying his own life right now. Give him space to be independant. In time, he will be better with communication. If you smother him, he won't know how to take it and may step back further....and will start dodging your calls.
I was the same way with my mom when I was in college, until I was about 27. I still don't call her often, but I email and IM her often.
2007-06-13 23:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by DH1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is calling all you do?
If you live close enough, stop by and visit.
Obviously something else is going on if you feel like his dodging you or he just doesnt care to even be slick about it.
Maybe he doesnt like talking on the phone?
Do you call him everyday?
I suggest you stop bye and visit or plan to visit.
2007-06-13 22:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that.. as a mother.. you must be very worry about him.. but I am thinking he just wants some his own space...
2007-06-13 22:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your sons is about 11to 15 like me i have never done that before but i think i know whats goin on. i dont really call my dad he usually calls me b/c i have nuttn to talk to him about. but if your son doesnt answer he might be with his friends and if i was with my friends i might not answer b/c my dad aint coolamd always says love you and its dorky to say that infront of your friends but he might feel bad not saying it back so a simple solution is dont answer
2007-06-13 22:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by coolio 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋