And she lived in TN...but I'm all the way across the country. I can't get a ticket for less than $1300. I feel so guilty and feel like I should go. I've already taken so much time from work for my own health reasons and looked for a flight that I could catch after work but there's nothing. So I'd still have to leave work early on Friday. What should I do?
2007-06-13 15:18:10 · 7 answers · asked by tooinvolved1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you feel like you should go, you should keep trying. Talk to the airline and see if you can get a discounted ticket because of the funeral- I don't even know if they do this anymore but it's worth a try. If it doesn't work out, don't feel guilty because at least you tried your hardest to get there. Take some time on Saturday to think about your aunt, either by yourself or tell a friend about her. Maybe you can make a small donation in her name to her favorite cause or something, watch a movie that she loved, or wear her favorite color. Just do something in her honor that will help you celebrate her life.
2007-06-13 15:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by I Should Be Cleaning My House 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Our family has had a tradition for several generations. "You don't need to go to the funeral." It does the dead no good at all. If she knew she was your fav auntie, and you talked to her or wrote to her. She knew what you were doing and things. Then do not feel at all guilty that you can't go to the funeral. I have seen people at funerals that haven't even talked to the deceased for years. Sat evening, after the funeral, just sit in a quiet place and talk to her. I am sure she can hear you. Tell her how much you love her and how much you will miss her. Did she have a favorite food, or drink, or flower? If so, get yourself one of those. My grandfather loved manhattans, so I mixed up one and drank it in his honor, My aunt loved popcorn, so I made a big bowl with lots of butter. It made me feel better, and I'm sure they were smiling down on me.
2007-06-13 15:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford to take off work or pay for the ticket.A sympathy card will have to do.Write a nice note inside.Don't feel guilty it just can't be helped.Maybe you can have some flowers sent to the funeral home from a nearby florist in Tennesse.At least they know your thoughts will be there with them.
2007-06-17 15:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definetly go, afterall it's your FAVORITE aunt. Work and money are not as important as paying respect to a woman who you loved. I'm so sorry for your loss.
2007-06-13 15:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows your heart and that you want to go, don't feel bad. What matters is that you want to go. She wouldnt want you to go through the stress of traveling there and then having to see her getting buried. I know that she just wants you to be happy, not worried and stressed...she still loves you and the time she spent with you!
2007-06-13 15:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyedauntie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you look into bereavement fares? Some airlines have a discount. But, if you can't make it... you just can't, I'm sure she would understand. I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-06-13 15:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Id go.If i didnt id feels even worse.
2007-06-13 15:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by ben 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋