IS 19 too Young to be ....?

Question

a mother. I am 19 y/o I work for a ambulance company. I have HS diploma. i also have a cert in medical assisting and phlebotomy, but work as a dispatcher. I plan on moving with a very close friend in to an apartment and who will help me to take care of my child while i work night shifts, the father will be very helpful, i drive a new car and plan on going to school to be a nurse, my community college has onsite child care. I might be prego and tying to look at it in the brightest lights. Any advice or help. i clear about 2,000/mo after taxes.I have medical and dental insurence so therefor my child will be covered to. My childs father is very supportive at this point but who knows if he might actually realize whats going on n be scared to death...lol... please nothing rude...
thank you all... peace

Answer 1

i do not think 19 is to young. i was in your situation but and everything worked out and i ended up getting married and buying a house with my husband. and you sould like you have a good head on your shoulders and that you have thought about this. you should be proud of what you have accomplished and dont let anyone try to put you down saying it that your to young. CONGRATS and ~~~good luck~~~

Answer 2

Age is less important than maturity level, you seem to be pretty mature but whether you are ready or not is something that only you can decide. It's good that the father is going to step up but be aware that even with a fantastic partner that is always there you'll be depended upon 100% and you won't always be able to find the help you need. Parenting has a way of making people strong, making them pull through, but I won't lie you have a tough road ahead of you. I became a mother at 19 and while I wouldn't change it I will tell you it changed me. Just know you are going to struggle and you are going to have sad, hard times, but if you decide you're going to raise this child the look in their eyes when they see you each night will be worth it, and if you decide you are going to give someone else the gift of parenthood instead the look in their eyes the first time they see the baby you love enough to give a better life will be worth it. Anyway you look at it you'll win, no matter how hard it is or how much it hurts you'll be better off in the end. Lean on those around you and you will never have too much to bear.

Answer 3

All I can say is I did it. My daughter is now 7 I'm 27 and I have a 11month old. It was much easier then for me then it is with my second one. My kids are god gifts that good you plan on finishing school see I went right to work when my baby was eight months I been working for the state for 61/2 years. The only thing I regret is going back to school so late I just going back this is my second year but hey I'm still young and if I keep going when it really count for them I'll make it happen. I'll have a masters degree before my daughter turn 12 so by 16 when she start driving and want a car I will be able to buy it. Girl do ya thing and keep ya head up

Answer 4

oh sweetie, your going to be fine. Having a child isn't about being a magical age. It's about being mature and being realistic about the situation. It's also very important to have support while pregnant and being a mother. It seems like you have all that. Some women aren't mature or stable enough to have a baby at 30.
Going to college and having a baby is hard. However it can be done. I went to nursing school with a four year old and got pregnant while still in the program. I'm sure you'll do just fine.

Answer 5

It's different for everyone. I became a mom at 23, which I'm sure some people would think is too young. You're not under age, you are out of high school, and already have an education in a career field. It sounds like you're on a good career path & can provide for your child. You should have a child when YOU are ready and not when someone else thinks you are ready. Good luck!

Answer 6

You sound very mature, rational, and level-headed, so in your case, no, 19 is not too young to be a mother. I know some 40 year old's who don't have it as together as you seem to.

I had my son at 20 (became pregnant at 19), and it's turning out just fine. He's 16 months old now, and his father and I are planning to be married soon (of course, that's not a necesary step just because you're having a baby. Single mom's do great, too!).

Good luck towards whatever outcome you are hoping for, and congratulations if you are pregnant!

Answer 7

Whether its too young or not, you cant change it if you're already a parent.

I think it depends on each person. I was a wife and mother at 19 and I'm happy with my life and family. We all keep growing as a family and each as individual people. I wouldn't change a thing even if I had a chance to.

Now other people might not feel the way I do. It really just depends on your circumstances.

Answer 8

On a whole you sound in better shape then most people are when they have their first child. You have means to make money to support yourself, A pretty heavy schedule , if the dad helps and there is child care in place, It won't be easy,but do able.

Answer 9

no 19 is not too young to be a mother you seem like you have plenty going for yourself you are doing well with the child you have who is to say you won't with the next one you have plenty of options it is just what you feel you are ready for and congratulations and if at all possible I support you in every way

Answer 10

No, it's not too young. I'm a mother and I'm 18. I don't have as much going for myself as you do, but I'm still making it and I'm still trying. My son has things that he needs and wants. So, no just be safe and don't have anymore. keep up the good work and never think you can't do it. Good luck! I know you can do it.