Is it wrong to get upset with your boyfriend from minor things?

Question

I've been dating this someone for a little over a year and have recently (and throughout our relationship) we get into arguments about me being easily upset and how he can't be with me like that and tells me I need to stop getting upset.
Sometimes I get upset..:
- when he is out with friends (especially ex-girlfriend.)
- don't get physical attention and affection in private.
- in public wanting to be treated like more of a girlfriend than friend...
- when he talks about the parties he's been to
- when he tells me about the future parties
- when he tells me he would rather see friends.

Now I know that I'm emotional, but I never tell him he does anything wrong. I thought a little more girls were like this than he knows apparently. He has considered breaking up with me because he doesn't think anyone should be like this.

Am I abnormally crazy? Am I just pumped full of estrogen from birthcontrol?

Yeah everything that you guys said makes sense , which is why when I say "upset" I guess I meant more to say that I get upset without telling him.

Usually I know its not reasonable for me to be mad so I can't get mad at him. I just get sad and he can tell. I don't tell him or ask him to do anything different. I really want to stop getting sad about it but its difficult to stop caring.

Answer 1

I don't know if estrogen has anything to do with it. But consider if these things are important enought to you that you are willing to risk loosing him bec of them. On the other hand, if these things are that important to you, then stop the relationship and move on. You have already told him these things and he hasn't changed. He would make more of an effort if you were really important to him.

Answer 2

I wouldn't say crazy, but as my girlfriend would tell you, you need to pick your battles. If you get upset with him for every little thing, he's going to feel henpecked, and no guy likes that.

I'd suggest that you bring issues to him one or two at a time. You have a right to be heard about what's bugging you, but if EVERYTHING seems to bug you (from his point of view), then it'll make a guy wonder if you're right for each other.

If it were me, I'd start with him going out with his ex-girlfriend. I'd think that would rub me the wrong way more than anything. But start with whatever upsets you the most, and work your way down. That's how my g/f and I do it--I do plenty of things that drive her crazy, but when she calmly tells me about it, it often gets fixed.

Answer 3

There are some things that you might need to work on. Like the friends, guys need them time and just to hang out. I can see where the ex comes in and that is fine, but for friends could you ease down a little?

I am not sure about the parties because you weren't that clear on them.

Answer 4

What the **** why are you like that? every guy needs space.

Answer 5

break up with him hes not for you. period, end of story.

Answer 6

petty!!!!