I have just seen this girl for a couple of weeks here and there, but never really had the opportunity to speak with her since she works in the pharmacy and I work as the stocker. The first time I saw her I believe she be the most attractive woman I would ever meet in my life because I could not find any flaw. The major problem is that I do not want to put myself out in the open because I don't know if she is married or dating someone else. I have never had such strong feelings for a person and I have basically just hello to her and thats all. I wanted to know if I should just try to start off talking to her and finding more about her without trying to come on too strong or show her my interest in her. She is constantly on my mind and picture myself living out my days with her beside me. What should I do? I will appreciate all the answers I will receive and thank you for reading my thoughts.
I'm 21, don't know how old she is but can tell is around the same age. I work part-time, go to
2007-06-13 14:39:06 · 21 answers · asked by mike j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can I really be in love with these girl that I have barely spoke too. Has this thing happen to anyone else. I feel like I can not get on with my life without talking to her, but I do not have that many chances to talk to her. I need to find someway to man up and speak with her. What is wrong with me?
2007-06-13 14:39:39 · update #1
By reading my own question I see why some people think its lust. But when I look at her I dont even think about having sex with her. I cant really explain what I feel when I see her except that she looks so lively and joyful. I just want to be close to her, but i dont have the courage to go up to her and ask her out. I have to find someway just to speak with her like another person.
2007-06-13 14:57:52 · update #2
Say that I find out that she isnt involved with anyone and I ask her to grab something to eat and/or watch a movie. Should I talk more or listen, it probably matters on the woman. I would like to show her that im interested, but not desperate.
2007-06-14 09:20:35 · update #3
you dont love her. you just want to have sex with her soooo badly. you want to get your dihk and slap it in her face dont you dirty guy
2007-06-13 14:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Harinder Gill 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is just lust, a crazy infatuation - you cannot fall in love without getting to know someone (love at first sight is a nice thought, but it doesn't happen). However, it could one day be love, so just start slowly talking to her, get to know her instead of just obsessing over her looks, and if she eventually initiates the conversation and seems interested, just ask if she'd like to go to dinner or grab a coffee sometime.
Take it slow - she'll think you're a psycho if you suddenly tell her you love her and want to grow old with her!!
GOOD LUCK, love is amazing and I hope you find it with the beautiful girl x
2007-06-13 14:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called lust, have you ever watched the good girl LOL
Its possible to have a major crush, and let is become an obsession in your mind. Get over your shyness, or whatever the reason is you havent talked to her, and find out about her. Ask her if shes married or dating anyone. If she tells you to piss off, then she is either attached, or doesnt find you to be someone she wants to start something up with. But if she answers and tells you shes unattached, ask her to lunch or coffee, so you can get to know each other. After a date maybe your obsessive thought will subside a bit. But either way you will have gotten to talk to her, and found out if you have a shot with her!!
You need to ask questions as well as listen. Asking shows her you are interested, and listening reinforces this. It alsoshows you want to hear what she has to say...
2007-06-13 14:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell him about this. He might want to nicely be apprehensive too and he might want to comprehend that those thoughts are some thing new and major to you and also you do not have the want to make any blunders on your relationship. it form of feels to be extra durable for adult adult males to speak about this stuff although so enable him comprehend you basically had to inform him that and do not anticipate some thing in certain to ensue ( basically wreck the ice about it). My guy doesn't many times say it until eventually I say it first yet we were mutually for over 12 years and that i comprehend the methods he shows it and function got here upon that a lot extra positive than listening to the words. even although I used to assert it a lot, I easily have realized that showing that's way extra positive and verify out to objective this extra myself now. First actual love is amazingly particular and each and every thing seems so astounding and different so make the effort (there isn't any reason to hurry some thing) celebrate with each and every second, be your self and enable it improve because it does because you'll save in options and get excitement from a lot extra that way.
2016-11-23 19:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by fiddler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww Love at first sight. That's so sweet. Go to her and start off with a small conversation, then begin to work your way towards asking about her status, and then go on from there, then you will know the steps after that. Sounds like you have have a good plan anyway.
2007-06-21 14:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by urnotme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be in love with someone you dont know. You are attracted to her. Go ask her something like, "I was wondering if you are not married, would you like to go to a movie with me?" She will be flattered, even if she doesnt go out with you. Relax and talk to her. There is nothing to loose. But if she says No, say ok, just thought I would take a chance, thanks. Then just be polite when you see her around, I wouldnt ask again. If she changes her mind, she will let you know.
2007-06-13 14:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by T I 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are not in love...you are in lust. And it is horrible. If you really like this chic then talk to her. You are going to regret not speaking to her. If you do then at least you know you've tried. Do you notice that you spoke about the way she looks..not about what she is like? You can't be in love with her if you don't even know her. Good luck.
2007-06-13 14:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by ~Charity~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't want to burst your bubble but what u are experiencing right now is lust or infatuation. if you and this girl get to know each other then love maybe a little closer to what you are feeling. if you are thinking about her that much then you should ask her out. if you dont you will never know.
2007-06-13 14:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by garyp8178 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can happen i think thats what happened with my BF, i met him at the restaurant he worked in, i was eating with my other friend and He just came up to our table and waited on us, then we asked for the check he asked for my number. Now he tells me that he had never felt that way about someone before and that he was in love with me the second i walked through the door.
2007-06-13 14:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by b21uneu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. It's just lust. Get to know her and then find out if you're in love. If you are, then tell her. Nothing should stand in the way of love.
2007-06-13 14:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by Adam A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what you call lusting, loving Simone is harder than liking or lusting after. To love someone takes a great amount of skill and effort and tolerance, patience kindness, unselfishness and honesty. Most of all COMMUNICATION.
2007-06-21 11:47:25 · answer #11 · answered by taa daa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋