We have been together 4 yrs. We have an 8 month old and i am expecting again in nov. last yr. when i was 4 months preg he had an affair (he said they slept together once, but they were talking on the phone and hanging out behind my back for a period of about 2 months), there have also been other things in our relationship, ex: another girl calling for him, him lying to me about random things, frequenting strip clubs, etc. that has made me feel uneasy. After his affair we worked through things for the sake of our family. Things are mostly good between us now, but I am still hung up on the past. I still find myself wondering if I can trust him, and i ask alot of questions when he goes out (especially with one friend who I dislike who also dislikes me because he tends to act wild when with this guy). He is pissed because I dont trust him and I really want to because I love him alot, I just cant stop letting the things he did in the past come back in my mind. What to do?
2007-06-13 14:05:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has NO right to get pissed when you ask about where and what he does when he goes out - HE is the one who cheated!
If he was truly serious about working on saving your relationship (for something other than the kids sake) - then this is one of the things that he should have willingly accepted...
In order to earn back trust, that person has to be willing to do WHATEVER it takes - and this can vary wildly. It sounds like he just "went through the motions" to avoid getting a divorce.
Perhaps the old saying is proving true here - once a cheater, always a cheater...
2007-06-13 14:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reply is for your center. How you'll believe a individual who has damaged you believe over and over again and harm you plenty. Now if you happen to once more believe him it's going to be your blunder mistake and you'll no longer be competent to forgive you via out your existence. Because, you cannot wish reliability from that individual to any extent further. Your additional believe in him will harm you to that quantity, that you're going to no longer be competent to believe any individual else in long term Please whip out each factor you've got for your brain in his remembrances and put out of your mind him for the whole existence. One factor I have to let you know that, this individual does no longer deserve a GIRL LIKE YOU. Never in his existence. Leave him directly and brake off all family members. If in long term he want to go back to you are saying him Good bye.
2016-09-05 15:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by barnell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL LOOK YEA IT IS THE PAST AND YEA U DO HAVE IT IN UR MIND IS HE GONNA CHEAT ON ME AGAIN WELL RITE NOW LET IT GO JUST CUZ U SHOULDNT STRESS URSELF WHILE BEING PREGNANT BUT IF DOES DO IT AGAIN LEAVE HIM SWEETIE AND PUT HIM ON CHILD SUPPORT FOR YOUR BABIES THAT HE HELPED U MAKE BCU ITS NO LIKE U CLIMBED ON TOP OF UR SELF AND MADE UR BABIES BY UR SELF SO JUST LET HIM KNOW THat u are in charge .. EVEN THO U DO LOVE HIM ALOT!!!
2007-06-13 14:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by helpful chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋