My soon to be 2 year old son still gets put to sleep by daddy! HELP!?

Question

My husband has put my son to sleep by laying with him in the recliner everynight since he has been born. Everynight it's a schedule. He say's you ready for nite nite and he runs to the recliner. He does take him to his bed later but that's where he needs to start off at. I have to admitt it's real sweet and all but I am visualizing a 16 year old laying there with him. I need to stop this as quickly as possible if it's not to late. HELP!

Answer 1

Believe me, your son will not want to sleep in the recliner w/ his dad at 16 yrs old. I think your son will pull away when he is ready. They don't stay little forever, so maybe you could just let your husband and son enjoy this while your son is still a little guy.

Answer 2

This hurts yes. Be honest. Flat out honest because this is what will make YOU feel better. I'm a single mom and my then 2 1/2 year old would cry long and horribly about missing daddy, wants daddy to move back in. Which I'm amazed that her memory allowed for it. SO rather than distract from the FACT that 'daddy was hard headed' ect...I delved into the truth (without insults) and told her daddy was hardheaded, that's why he don't live with us (she laughed a little bit hearing familiar word ahem, hardheaded). Why not tell your son where daddy is and what for - it's true ain't it? Tell him again and again and again. So long as it's true. Regardless of the amount of time spent away, at least you will have never lied to your son or turned your head from what's really going on. I never had a baby before this one, so I was worried she might be 'depressesed' too. I didn't go to doctors because they're always offering dope and pills, not the ACTUAL ANSWERS you son wants. Are you making yourself available to your son's feelings? Ask your son and keep asking him to talk about his feelings toward his dad - it's o.k. (You don't have to go into politics, and fatality counts, and troop withdrawal stuff that adults hear). Put it in a kid's context! You can play with an airplane over a map and tell him that's what daddy's doing...kinda right? Right? Did you tell your son he can talk to you anytime about his daddy? Say whenever you feel like it we can talk about your daddy.

Answer 3

Do your family a favor and don't try to break them of this bonding time. If your 16 yr old still wants to cuddle with Dad you'll be the luckiest parents on earth! Unfortunately, that's not gonna happen. Is there an underlying issue here? Is Dad staying in the recliner too long and you're resentful of him not coming to bed w/you? If so, then work on exactly what bothers you. If not, then let it go and enjoy the fact that your son is growing up secure. Remember, your husband's teaching him to be a father to your future grandbabies. Wouldn't you want to see your son cuddling his 2 yr old to sleep?

Answer 4

I think that's very precious. Many dads do nothing of a bedtime routine. Believe me when your son is in grade school he no longer will want or need to do this routine. When he gets a big boy bed make a big deal out of it, and being his responsibility to sleep in his bed. Use a reward chart with stars for when he succeeds thru the night. When he gets 10 stars he gets pizza for supper, and has the new bed down pat.

Answer 5

I really do not see a problem here. I think it is fantastic that your son has a bedtime routine with his father. It is there time together.

Can the routine evolve into more age appropriate bedtime activities as he ages? Absolutely! Soon, your son will want a bedtime story. Maybe some nice conversation of your son telling his dad about his day.

Long before your son is too old to be rocked to sleep, he will think that he is. That is the time to vary the routine.

Answer 6

does he sleep all night without waking up? If he does theres nothign to worry about, my 2yr old (he is getting better) but still wakes up in the night because he was used to be held all the time.

What you could do is get your son and his daddy to sit in his room until he goes to sleep, then maybe change it slighty have the 2yr old in bed, while he gets read a story then say goodnight and walk away, they are really stubborn but it's working for my son, he now falls alsleep on his own and doesn't wake up as often during the night.

Answer 7

I think it would be a good idea for dad to change the location to your son's room. After the routine has been established there, then begin to wean him to being put to bed, maybe with a story, prayers and a kiss. There is no big rush; but, it is healthier for your son if he goes to bed in his own bed. It will also allow more time for you and your husband to be alone - something that is very important if you are to maintain a healthy relationship.

Answer 8

DEAR MISS

I DO THINK

THINGS WILL CHANGE AT (16) TRUST ME

TAKE PHOTO,S AND ENJOY THE MOMENT WHY IT

LATEST OK I CAN NOT SAY IT ENOUGH ON HERE ONCE

GROWN THEN GONE THEN MOMMY IS THE ONE WHO

CRY,S AT THE FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL K-12 THEN

COLLAGE 1-4 ARE 8 THEN MARRIAGE A GRAND BABY

OK SEE WHERE I AM GOING ARE TRY TO WITH THIS

MATTER NOT TO HURT YOUR FILLING I WOULD NEVER

HURT ANY ONE ARE ANY BODY FILLINGS ON HERE

JUST TRYING TO MAKE A POINT OK I THINK IT IS SO

SWEET HE LOVES HIS FATHER OK I THINK YOU NEED

TO MAKE SOME MOMMY AND ME TIME TOO BECAUSE

THE NEXT TIME YOU LOOK UP PRE KINDERGARTEN

AND KINDERGARTEN OK DEAR ONCE HE STARTS

KINDERGARTEN HE WILL BE A BIG BOY UNLESS HE

GETS SICK AND WANTS MOMMY TRUST ME OK PS

PLEASE START A PHOTO ALBUM IF YOU HAVE NOT

ALL READY OK FOR THE LATER YEARS IN HIS LITTLE

LIFE SAY REMEMBER WHEN YOU DONE THIS HE WILL

SAY NOPE YOU SAY LET US SHOW YOUR NEW WIFE

AND KIDS OK.

TAKE CARE

Answer 9

You need to take your child slowly up into his bedroom. Ask him one night to sleep on the floor next to the recliner. And then carefully move him a little closer to his bedroom every night.

Answer 10

If your loving husband wants to rock your son to sleep every night, why not let him? Your son will decide at some point (before age 16) that he doesn't want to be rocked to sleep anymore. Just be greatful & enjoy the fact that you have such a great daddy for your son & that your husband is there for you & your son. My husband doesn't get home until late (after bedtime) so I find my self having to put our 5 kids to bed by myself.