my boyfriend and I have been doing this stuff for 2 years, And now, being in a long distance relationship I realized that waiting until marriage is the safest and the right thing to do.
I told him that we should do it again on our wedding day, that's about 5-7 years from now and He kinda freaked out! with the reason that we're far apart and it was so sudden.
He was scared because he thought that I'll be looking for another guy here, but really I've decided and I have a commitment that he's the one Im going to marry and I know he had that same commitment on marrying me too.
I am worried because he said he understood, but he really feels bad about it,
what should i do??
GUYS if you were in my boyfriend's place.. how would you feel??
2007-06-13 13:47:18 · 10 answers · asked by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on??!! you mean like.. DUMP ME?
2007-06-13 13:51:46 · update #1
If I was in your boyfriends place - I would be wondering why you decided that NOW is the right time to stop having sex... (at the very least!)
By the sounds of it, the two of you HAVE had sex - so what exactly has changed for you to make this decision? Is it the distance - he could always come out to see you once every few months or so (or vice versa)...
I'm also curious - it sounds like the two of you have already SET your wedding date... Why is it so far away??
2007-06-13 14:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's ridiculous, that u both stopped now, when u should of even started 2 years ago if u considered this now
why are u both long distance anyway?
why 5-7s years until marriage?
i'll put it this way, u already let him in yo pants, and he wont ever get enough of it, unless yo bf is strong in the head and is deeply in love wit u, he's gonna eventually break up wit u or cheat on u
how is it safest anyway? wat exactly are u afraid of, u both already have been doin it, wat difference would it make now or later? there's a 70% chance u're gonna lose him because of this
it would be one thing if u both were living together and did this... but long distance? long distance relationship is bad enough, u just made it even worst... this just says u both are meant to be then...
wat u must do is, if u don't use sex, find something that would keep his interrest in u
2007-06-13 14:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Zi-Shu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Betrayed and Angry. You can't just all of a sudden become Abstinant after doing the deed. If you wanted to wait until Marriage you shouldn't have started having sex in the first place. This might just put a strain on your relatinoship because I would be just as worried about cheating as much as him. Hopefully everything works out.
2007-06-13 13:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by Connor G 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would feel like getting it where I could. No way is a guy going to wait 5-7 years to get laid.
If you do end up getting back together, be sure to get him tested for any/all stds.
2007-06-13 13:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Um, he would look for some else who will give him a piece of *** rather than waiting for 7/8 years, that is long.
2007-06-13 13:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I aint a guy but I am pretty sure thats grounds for cheating or a new gf
2007-06-13 13:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
well i'm catholic so i might (might!) wait till i'm married myseelf
2016-05-19 21:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got dumped over it.
2007-06-13 13:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would move on.
2007-06-13 13:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
***** what is wrong wid you.
2007-06-13 14:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋