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there is this guy i really like and we aren't going out but he wants to have sex and i want to save it for when i am married what do i tell him so it won't ruin things between us?

2007-06-13 13:45:48 · 37 answers · asked by SOMEONE 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

37 answers

If you don't want to have sex, it's simple - don't have sex.

2007-06-13 13:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 3 0

Just tell him no. You guys aren't even dating and he actually wants that from you? I think it's pretty hard not to ruin things between you guys once you tell him no. Because he seem more interested in bedding you rather than you as a person. You won't lose out on anything even if he's gone from your life I guess. So stay firm!

2007-06-13 13:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wait....you're NOT going out but this guy wants sex, and you're worried about ruining things between the two of you? That doesn't make sense. You're saying (if I'm interpreting it correctly) that this guy who you're ot even going out with currently already TOLD you that he wants sex from you? And your WORRIED about ruining things? This guy sounds like a real piece of work. Why do you even worry about "ruin"ing things? STAND BY YOUR BELIEFS. If this guy just wants you for sex, he's a loser, player, user, and you will get used and dumped, and everything you've saved for marriage will be down the toilet. Get this cretin out of your life, and find someone that deserves you! GL

2007-06-13 13:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by smallweed 4 · 0 0

I am in the same situation. The guy that I am talking about though will not listen to me. Make sure you get your point across. You do not want to make him think something other than what you tell him. Just explain to him how you feel and let him know that you feel this way about everyone...not just him. If he gets angry or doesn't want to be around you after that...he is not worth it. You deserve a guy who is going to respect who you are as a person and what you believe in. If he can't deal with it and understand where you are coming from (whether he likes it or not) you probably shouldn't be around him.

2007-06-13 13:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by *My_Oh_My* 2 · 0 0

Tell him how you feel, and if he really loves you and respects you he will wait.

If he doesn't then your better off without him, he is only with you for the sex and that is not a good reason to sleep with him.

You can only give your verginity up once so save it until you choose to give it up to the one man you intend on being with for the rest of your life. That is a gift you can give to your husband that will be very much appreciated.

It's nice to see there are still girls out there that still respect themselves enough to wait.

2007-06-13 13:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0 0

well, honey you are going to have to be honest with him, but try not to judge him for his choices either.
Tell him that you love him and are happy with the way things are right now. That this is something you can only give away once and that you want to save it for your husband. There is no shame in that.
You just have to be willing to put up with all the man-drama that will be coming.
"if you loved me you would" " i don't think we are going to work out if you can't do this for me" "I love you and we will get married one day" it is all just a play to get your gift.
Stick to your guns and just say no.

2007-06-13 13:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by † Seeker of Truth † 4 · 0 0

If you dont want to dont.

Sex is only one part of a relationship and if he cant wait for you then he isn't worth losing your virginity over.

It may ruin things but I really suggest not having sex with him untill you ar completley ready, and remember there are other things to do together intimatley without actually having sex.

2007-06-13 13:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

SAY NO! Its amazing how powerful that is. Tell him how you feel, if he respects that he will wait. Then again, he may just be a typical young man, who really wants to have sex. That doesn't make him bad, but it does create an impass in your relationship. In which case he can find it elsewhere. Its tough when your trying to stick to a high standard for yourself. It isn't easy, that is why it is a high standard.

2007-06-13 13:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by No one 2 · 2 0

Just tell him the way you just explained it and if he cant accept that which he wont then just leave him alone and find a guy who is on the same thing your on or who will respect your decision to remain a virgin until your married.

2007-06-13 13:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by highking937 2 · 0 0

Too late. He already ruined it between you two. You can always try sitting him down and talking your heart out. It often works. If both parties want to resolve. Good luck. Better check your company if he still insists.

2007-06-13 13:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Ordinary 1 · 1 0

honey, if you dont want it, then tell him no. obviously hes just playing you. hes not that great of a friend if he wont respect your wishes. either way you go, your gonna ruin whats between you two. my advice is go with your wish, say no and save yourself. believe me, you'll feel better in the long run.

2007-06-13 13:50:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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