2007-06-13 13:38:59 · 29 answers · asked by MrsOcultyThomas 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
And, how did that work?
2007-06-13 13:39:37 · update #1
About 2 weeks ago, my son disrespected me in a way that actually caused me to cry. He sincerely apologized and I forgave him of course (I had forgiven him before he asked, but he needed to say he was sorry).
Offend is an interesting word. I have come to believe that there is a spirit of offence that is actually a demon. It operates in a way that it uses offence to cause people to latch onto it like it belongs to them. When was the last time you met someone who DIDn't in some way hold on to some offence committed to them in the past and who rather relished the thought of talking about it in a way that exalted them-self and crushed the offender?
Why do we do that? Is it a comfort level?
Anyway, I now understand that offence is a rather useless emotion. I am not offended at the foibles of man. I cause the same grief for people that my neighbour does whether I am aware of it or not. I am just as guilty as the rest. So instead of embracing offence, I become rather shocked, and then I grieve. And once forgiveness is given (as soon as is possible) the burden is lifted from my heart and truly the memory fades - but not so much that I am not on my guard for the future, in a healthy way.
blessings and (((hugs))) uncle wayne :)
2007-06-13 14:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am still dealing with an issue that really upset me and a person whose actions deeply offended me. I will forgive in time because I know she has issues and needs help, but witnessing a mother abuse her children is difficult to see. It will be hard to get over quickly, especially because she is family and I have to see her often. Actions have been made to correct the situation and when I see things have actually changed, I will be ready to forgive. Unfortunately I don't forget quite as easily and I will always be watching her...
2007-06-13 21:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The last time was about a month ago. I did not speak to my friend for 11 months and I decided to forgive him. He went out with my ex gf and I got over it because they did'nt even last much but it did hurt me even though we had broken up because he was my best friend. But I forgave him because it did not make any sense to keep fighting and it worked out fine it was hard at first but then I decided to forgive him.
2007-06-13 20:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by JM R 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've learned that you can put someone in their place just by using your brain..you don't always have to use profanity, but if if someone has offended me, I just think of something personal that they once told me and use it against them.
I have yet to be offended by someone, but trust and believe that if and when that day comes I will know exactly what to say...and so will you.
You have to show people that they will not get away with offending you, once you show them that they are messing with the wrong person, they will never even think to even try to offend you ever again.
2007-06-13 20:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by sexyblackmomba 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I try not to allow myself to be offended.
If I feel offended I forgive and look deep within to discover why I felt offended. I am responsible for my own emotions.
2007-06-13 20:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just this afternoon I instantly forgave a gaggle of sad fundies who told me I was going to hell. So far, I'm not in hell, but I am going to south Alabama next weekend.
2007-06-13 20:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every single day of m'life. It's tough, but it's worth it. Think of it as wearing a backpack --- and each time someone offended you --- it was a rock that you added to your backpack. If I allowed myself to hoard those rocks by NOT forgiving folks when they offend me...
I'd be cripple.
2007-06-13 20:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by INsight 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, right here. Yahoo is strengthening my faith so much. Was telling my friends about it just today. Reading so many people be so mean to me and to each other and about Jesus... it's really, really hard. And I was really worried it'd make me hard-hearted and angry, but it's literally giving me endless chances to be soft, and forgiving. It's such a blessing!
Thing is, someone doesn't even need to know they hurt you for you to forgive them; they don't need to apologize. Is why forgiveness is so beautiful.
2007-06-13 20:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Munchkin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
5 minutes ago. I forgive so easily. I'm one of the forgive and forget people, so I never really hold on to things. Grudges are so time consuming.
2007-06-13 20:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by x 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hhmmmm well things bother me on here all the time...but the feelings go away real fast
The other day though I got into an argument with another Muslim on here...and then even though I was still upset and knew he hadn't changed his mind I decided to forgive him...and things are cool now! :D
2007-06-13 21:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sassafrass 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋