how do you let go of resentment? At times it feels like i let go of things that hurt me in the past. Only fo

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for them to creep out without notice. I know living in the past is wrong. I know the person can only do so much to make it better. Even if i think the person changed, i truely can't let go of the issues from the past..Although its not cheating or physical,i can't let go

Answer 1

I am a cupoboard stuffer, For years, I put all of my emotional baggage in a cupboard and locked it up tight. Whilst working through my diploma in psychology, I decided to pull it all out and throw it away. Firstly I identified the people I was maddest at and why, I wrote them in a list. Then I looked at it from their side, trying to understand as best I could, why they had made the choices they had. This was really hard for me, personally. Then I spent some time, focusing on whether I could finally forgive and let go. Some were easier then others, but i finally got through my whole list. Then, I threw it away. And moved on. Alot of my anger and resentment has gone and I feel so much better for itl Maybe, what I went through, willl help you.

Answer 2

The way to stop resentment is through forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean that what the other person did to you was alright. It is meant to rid us of resentment. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that you have to trust them again, right away. Trust takes time to earn back once it has been violated. Resentment only hurts the person feeling it. If the person is truly repentant (really feels sorry for hurting you), it makes it a lot easier to forgive them. You might need the same forgiveness from someone else some day. It takes time to get over being hurt by someone we trusted. Give yourself time to heal.

Answer 3

Letting move is less difficult stated than performed. Letting move of anger & resentment is any such releasing revel in. Because you're no longer permitting any one to maintain to have energy over you. Whatever occurred it occurred for a purpose there may be lesson in there someplace. You are lacking the lesson to be found out and are eager about what occurred. Step again possibly the lesson is within the act of forgiving. That might be a distinguished lesson to be taught.

Answer 4

things that hurt you make you stronger. they mold you into who you are. My advise is never forget it but earn from it. try to find out what you did ( if anything ) , what you could do different, and how to see when something went wrong. it may take a while but everyday, you will become stronger. don't live in the past move on to the future and make the best of what you have and who you are. you cant change the past, whats done Is done. so learn from it and show others how to not let it happen to them

Answer 5

I used to be obsessive & over the years I got really messed up. I wasn't an alcoholic - I wasn't physically addicted - but I abused alcohol daily.

Last year I became a (Soto Zen) Buddhist & learnt to let go through meditation, instead of drinking. I am a different person because of it.

You don't have to turn to Zen. But you do have to find the outlet, to let go - maybe Yoga, Tai Chi, whatever. But when you find what works - stick with it.

I had a painful end to a relationship just yesterday & sitting (Zen meditation) is what gets me through the day.

Answer 6

You know what I do? Everytime I think about something that someone has done to hurt me, I get it out of my head as quick as possible. Trust me, don't start thinking about it or you won't stop. Just immediatly start thinking about something positive this person has done for you and then you will smile.

Answer 7

You can let go of whatever you choose to. You might consider letting go of that person, if you're still punishing them with your resentment.

Answer 8

Loving God
protect me with
Your Love,
Prevent others
from viewing me with hostility.
Never allow
the negativity of others
to influence my life
or affect my destiny.


Oh how much good
I've lost
in losing control
of my anger;
such a large portion of life,
so much growth
I've let slip from my hands
by allowing my burning thoughts
to get better of me.
God,
teach me to let go.

God of wonders,
You've given me
the most wonderful
of all gifts--
the gift of free will.
May my will never deviate
from Your holy Will.
Guide me always,
so that all the choices I make
are good ones---
choices that are
in harmony with Your Will,
as long as I live.

God of unfathomable goodness,
the history of human agony
haunts my soul;
ashes, blood, and cries
pierce my heart;
diabolic schemes of oppressors
plague my mind.
Grand me an extra measure of
strength,
understanding
and faith
to help me find You--
to discover Your Light
midst the blinding dread,
through the revolving horror.

God, perfect God--
You created me
destined for perfection;
how far have I wandered
from that destiny!
How much of my purity
have I squandered
through careless, thoughtless,
self-centered behavior--
behavior wanting in morality
and holiness.

Overcoming Doubt

My vision is distorted,
loving God of truth.
I want to see clearly,
but my heart leads me
through twisted, convoluted paths
of misunderstood impressions.
Straighten those paths
so that I can strengthen myself
in the conviction of my beliefs.


Troubles

Kind, Loving, Mighty God:
Stretch out Your hand
to strengthen me.
Lift me up
from my abyss;
right my wrongs;
turn my every failure
into success.
Look upon my troubles
and say,
"Enough!"


Oh, God
Your Creation resonates
with holy sounds
Let me hear them all.
Let them penetrate my heart
and rouse my senses;
the jangle of a charity box;
the voice of an faithful teacher;
even the intonation
of my own sign
when I cry out to You--
all these sounds are holy.
Oh, God
let my heart hear them all
and be uplifted.

Ruler of the World,
grant me truth!
Spare me from the lies of others,
Help me stop myself
from lying
to others
Save me
from lying to myself,
and spare me
from the lies
of my own illusions.
Oh, God
never let me live a lie,
even for only a moment.

Center of all existence
help me find the way
to that sacred sanctuary
within myself,
to that precious center of my existence.
Help me discover
my place in the World--
that space where I truly belong,
that space which belongs
unconditionaly to me
Dear God,
I've wandered for so very long,
Help me find my way
home.

Harmful Words

O God,
help me avoid
every abuse of speech.
Let no untrue word, escape my lips.
I pray that I never
speak badly of others,
or speak empty words of flattery.
Help me stay away from profanity.
Teach me, dear God,
when to keep silent
and when to speak;
and when I speak O God,
save me from using
Your wonderful gift of speech
to humiliate or hurt
anyone.


Sensitive Speech

God of understanding,
guide me,
for my own words sometimes
baffle me.
When I relate to those around me
insensitively;
when I hurt,
embarass
or insult them;
when I speak with a callousness
that causes pain;
when I lose myself
in my own ego----
God, pull me back to reality.
Help others understand
that I too am in pain,
and let them be forgiving.



In Thanks

God, ever my only Support,
You've taught me to pray----
to sigh,
to cry,
to awaken true, meaningful words
from deep within:
words that strengthen;
words that easy my pain
and heal my wounds;
words that dispel darkness.
Thank You, God,
for opening my lips
and for teaching me
to seek You
through prayer.



Focused Prayer

O dear God,
how I want
to pray,
but the distractions
are never-ending.
Please----
help me overcome them.
Help me be
wholly focused.
For once
help me pray
only true,
totally hearfelt words
to You,
dear God.



Perception: Body and Soul

Holy One,
grant me the wisdom
to bring harmony
to the alliance
of my body and my soul.
Let them rise together
in my devotion to You.
My soul perceives Your light----
let my body discern it too.
My soul sounds Your praise----
let my body sing it too.



Wise Counsel

O God,
how can I make my way through
the confusion
and uncertainty
that cloud so much of what I do?
Guide me to wise teachers and mentors,
whose advice is pure
and in tune with Your Will.
Guide me to true friends,
whose counsel is caring
and promotes my best interests.
Guide me to clear, correct decisions,
to conclusions that are sound
and free of all doubt.



Clarity and Assurance

O God,
grant me clarity
and assurance
in whatever I do.
Teach me to trust in wise teachers ----
to learn from their insightful words,
Teach me to trust in true friends----
to treasure their care and concern.
Teach me to trust in myself----
to judge my own course
correctly,
and so to live
with conviction
and hope.

Miracles of Nature

Dear God,
open my eyes
to see
the countless amazing miracles
You perform for me
constantly.
Open my mind to understand
that what appears to be
the natural order of things is in truth miraculous
in every way,
Your guiding Hand
directs and empowers me
in everything I do.



Recognizing Life's Miracles

Open my eyes,
O God,
to the marvels that surround me.
Show me the wonder
of each breath I take,
of my every
thought,
word
and movement.
Let me experience the miracles
of the world I witness----
ever mindful
and always appreciative
of all that You have made.

God,
I stand beaten and battered
by the countless manifestations
of my own inadequacies.
Yet we must
live with joy--
overcome despair,
seek, pursue and find
every inkling of goodness,
every positive piont within ourselves,
and so discover true joy,
Aid me in this quest, O God.
Help me find satisfaction
and a deep, abinding pleasure
in all that I have.
in all that I do,
in all that I am.