I got a 'Kathy Van Zeeland' designer purse 100 dollars. 2 shirts that were 19.95 each and a VERY expensive meal of crab legs, and a 75 dollar pedicure. and idontknow why, but they think they have to buy me expensive stuff for me to have a happy birthday! i feel really bad and horrible. what should i do?
2007-06-13 12:55:38 · 11 answers · asked by Shelby 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know how you feel, I feel guilty when people spend a lot on me too. But think about it this way, does it happen all the time? It is your birthday, if you didn't ask for the stuff they chose it so it's their fault they spent so much. They wouldn't have spent to that much if they couldn't afford it or if they didn't think you deserved it.
2007-06-13 13:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn aka JDub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell your age or status, but I'm assuming (?) that you're a teenager living with your parents. If that's the case, just talk to them and tell them that their love and support mean more to you than any material objects. Let them know that you'd be more comfortable with a modest gift and a bigger gift to a charity in your honor. Be sure they know it's that love and support, not the goods, that make you love them so! If, however, you are living with a parent (and maybe a step-parent) and having visits with the other parent, the chemistry changes. They may be trying to buy your loyalty. In that case, you need to figure out if they are truly worthy of your trust. And if they are trying to quietly point out that they can give you things the other parent can't....give it all back and tell them thanks, but that you feel like your emotions are being manipulated and you just don't need that. Don't be angry...just be frank and mature...that might come as a shock to them.
2007-06-13 20:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by rb29440 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Its all relative.They were just trying to be nice but to be honest thats really not exspensive.Maybe the purse was a tad high but hey if you treasure it you can have it for the rest of your life if you take care of it.I think they were just trying to pamper you a bit so you should smile great big and give them all a thankyou and a hug if you can. Just except it all gracefully and show what a classy lady you can be.
2007-06-13 20:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stopped feeling bad about things like that. I used to feel the same way but if people decide that they want to buy me some Dolce and Gabana, I sure as hell aint gone stop them. So don't feel bad, be greatful you have friends and family that care about you to spend that kind of money. Oh and GEMINI'S IN THE HOUSE. (my birthday is in like 6 days) Enjoy ur gifts.
2007-06-13 20:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy birthday, first of all. And second, is this your parents that we are talking about? have they always bought you nice things and only now you are bothered by it? It seems that maybe you are changing, growing up even, and realize that material things aren't important and that you don't want them to feel like they have to buy your love. You should probably express this to them. Just have an adult talk and tell them those types of things aren't important to you and then tell them what is.
2007-06-13 20:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by uphill climb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them thanxs but u didnt have 2 buy me all of those expensive things
2007-06-14 00:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by I love Dionne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept it. i know i wouldnt give ppl i didnt care about expensive things. be happy youre surrounded by people who love you
2007-06-14 02:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are just celebrating you, enjoy it and say thank you to those that gave so generously.
2007-06-13 20:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you fell bad. dont be. if there freinds there trying to make you fell good. dont fell bad. and your probly not sad just overwelmed . and you fell like you dont deserve the stuff when you do.
2007-06-13 20:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by Aadam J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all relative. they aren't that expensive actually. enjoy them
2007-06-13 20:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋