Ok we were at a funeral (my grandfather), 2 soldiers were there to mourn him. Once the funeral was over we greeted them. The soldiers shook hands with my dad, my uncles, and my boy cousins. They also shook hands with my aunt. However they did not, they actually refused to shake hands with my great aunt... my (as of now) late grandfather's sister. Is there some code thing or a specific reason that they could not shake her hand or were they too busy to notice that she offered it to them? I con-fuzzled. Any ideas would be of help. By the way... she was in no way repulsive and there was nothing that seemed wrong with her apperance.
2007-06-13 12:50:11 · 8 answers · asked by Echidna eats an enchilada 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I have had the honor of of being in charge of about a dozen military funerals over the past 5 years. There is no regulation that address's hand shaking. Soldiers know when they are preforming these duties it is a very important event for the family. I know the soldiers involved had no intention of showing your family or the former soldier any dis-respect and it was some sort of mis-understanding. They must not have seen the hand extended. When I am involved with funerals I go the extra mile to make sure I make my-self available to the family. I know it helps in the grieving process. A few years ago my step daughters grand father died, he was a 20 year vet and received full honors I went and found the detail replaced the NCOIC with myself and honored him. My step daughter's family was very grateful. I formally apologize for what happened that day and you can be sure they did not mean to have it turn out that way.
2007-06-13 16:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by fred l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only echo the other answers. If they did not attend to her gesture it is a great failing in observation. If they did not shake her hand there was a personal reason behind it. I know of nothing in the American military that would even come close to giving a reason to be rude to an elderly lady. I have always found that just the opposite was the usual case.
2007-06-13 13:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by oldhippypaul 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was just a mistake. They probably didn't see her offer her hand. Soldiers are people too. I was an MP for many years and we did all the military funerals at the state Veterans Cemetery, the stories I could tell you!!!!
2007-06-13 13:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by SGT. D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 08:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, apparently neglect. I know it will stay in one's memory, but try not to hold it against them
I am, frankly, amazed that they shook hands with anyone; that is not the norm.
2007-06-13 13:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nothingusefullearnedinschool 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing in the military code of ethics that defines who's hand to shake and who's not to, There had to have been something personnel between the soldIErs and your aunt, ie. something maybe your grandfather shared with these men while he was alive, but that does not make it right, it was very rude and unprofessional of these men
2007-06-13 13:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by robby h 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I'm sure it was just an oversight or mistake. No soldier would act like that.
2007-06-13 12:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by jim h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I believe it was an oversight and didn't see the offering!
2007-06-13 12:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋