I mean a mom who is about 23-24 and is unmarried who has a child that she adopted? I'm not a mom, I was just wondering what people generally thought about that. Like, would you think differently about them than a young/single mother who had biological children?
2007-06-13 12:44:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
A mother is a mother whether she is raising her biological children or her adopted children. Ask any mom and she won't differentiate between adopted and bio (unliked the cursed media!). She will say they are her children - point blank.
Adoptive parents are special because they not only CHOSE to adopt but also went through all the steps including intense background checks and interviews in order to be allowed to adopt.
Whether those parents are single mothers, married couples, or gay couples - they all want to give a loving home to a child that needs it. And in the end, the parent is more blessed by the child than vice versa.
Many adoptive parents I've spoken with say they dislike being told how "lucky" the child is that they adopted them. In fact, the adoptive parent(s) feel so much more fortunate to be the child's parents and are thankful for the opportunity and gift.
2007-06-14 18:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by libqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that if she's capable of providing a stable family environment for the child, herself, and is financially secure then I don't see why a young female in her early 20's should not be allowed to adopt. However I think it's highly unlikely that a person just barely out of college would be able to provide all that on their own completely with out any help of family members, or close friends. When my friend was 19 she had her daughter and it wasn't easy especially being a single mom. Had another child at 23 after she was married. And just had her third at 28 last year - and I can tell you that just now she is in a position where she can provide financial and emotional support and the stabillity a child prospers from.
2007-06-15 00:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kerri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good mother is a good mother, adopted child or biological. I would say she was a caring person who decided to help out a child who did not have a family. In this day and age, marriage is not mandatory for a family, adopted or birthed.
NO I think of them as mothers and so should everyone else.
2007-06-13 23:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A ton of people will tell whatever mom that wants to do this that she shouldn't, but if she thinks she can handle a child at her age and condition then she should go for it. Personally I think it sounds like a person that really cares about kids and doesn't care if it is her own or not because she will give it all her love no matter what. That sonuds like an amazing person right there!
2007-06-13 19:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by ♡dancingfoolxoxo♪♫♪♫♪☂ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think she's better off than young mother with biological children, since she could afford to adopt
2007-06-13 19:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are financially secure, responsible, and emotionally ready to be a parent, then go for it, but expect alot of criticism. Children typically do better in 2 parent homes but that doesn't mean a single parent can't be an excellent parent.
2007-06-13 19:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by angelmomma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋