i have a problem can anyone help me or give me advice?

Question

pretty much i hate life im 18 still a virgin never dated anyone never kissed a girl and i live in miami any advice as to how i can fix this

Answer 1

Change your attitude. Life isn't about having sex and hooking up. Figure out what you want out of life and pursue it. You should be greatful you are still here able to "live" your life. Being a virgin isn't exactly a "crisis."

Answer 2

If you ask me bro you are already fixed. I'm 25 yrs old, 6'2, 215 lbs and I seem to clean up pretty well without even trying. I got the whole tall, dark, and handsome thing going (ok really 2 out of 3) but the girls will always be there. Be patient. You will have your time. Don't focus so much on the now. I was a virgin at 18 as well, I actually didn't lose my virginity until 21. The only reason I did is because I thought she was the one. I was wrong. Once you start getting down it will be like you were never a virgin. TRUST ME! IT CAN WAIT! Since then I have been with a number of women, all races (except asian- I was close though), all sizes, all ages (legal of course), one night stands, strippers, I have had 2 pregnant girlfriends (one which ended up as a miscarraige and the other a false alarm), even a STD scare (no man wants to get tested for diseases like that, the pleasure doesn't equal the pain), and I am currently trying my best to be celibate. Sex gets old really quick. I understand the curiousity and the peer pressure must be killing you, but don't hate life, don't let the media and/or your friends gas you into thinking that sex is the best thing in the world. It feels good no doubt, but I assume you masturbate, since you're a virgin, the same feeling you get when you ejaculate is going to be accompanied with a person being there that you may not even care about and you won't want them there hanging out. You don't want that bro. DON'T BELIEVE THE HYPE!! Besides I thought back to my days as a virgin and now I realize that knowing you can have a girl is often better than actually getting the girl. Imagination is usually better than reality. Stay strong bro we need more men like you. If it's any consolation, remember that you didn't want any women until you saw them anyway. Prior to discovering new women you're content, don't conform to society just to fit in. Once you give up your virginity you will never get it back. As for kissing a girl and going on a date, be yourself and the rest will follow. God bless you bro

Answer 3

Having sex isn't everything in the world you know.
It's not all it's cracked up to be. . . . .
I've never heard anyone who repented staying a virgin till they got married. . . . .
Figure out what you enjoy doing that makes you happy.
Then pursue those activities, make yourself a whole person without a girlfriend/boyfriend and then one day when you're ready, someone will walk into your life. . . . because you have worked on yourself so the universe will see that you're ready to meet this kind of person to be your partner.

Everyone is always looking for the perfect girlfriend/boyfriend.
But no one is concentrating on being that perfect girlfriend/boyfriend.
So if everyone thinks like this, then that perfect gf/bf will never exist, cause everyone's too busy looking for them, and not working on themselves!
Strange concept at first but think about it and you'll find that it's true. . . . .

And if you don't want to listen to me, ill give you a reason why you should. . . .
I'm also 18 - a girl
I'm still a virgin
aaand
I've never technically dated anyone either!

Answer 4

Don't be so down on yourself. You are alive and have a full life ahead of you. There are a lot of sick kids that will never get to experience anything that you will in life. You have so much to give.

I would suggest getting out more and enjoying life. Sing like nobody is listening and Dance like like nobody is watching. You have this one life. Enjoy it to the fullest and make the most of it. Trust me, the rest will just fall into place.

If you have time, donate it at a Children's Hospital. It will make you forget about your problems and see what Life is all about.

I hope this helps you. and by the way I think it is nice these days to see that someone is still a virgin at the age of 18. :)

Answer 5

Ummm, I am 18 as well, a virgin, never kissed a girl. But I like my life, because I have good friends, able to enjoy myself easily. All this means is that when you do meet someone special, that first kiss is gonna be even more wonderful than it would be otherwise :)

Answer 6

ok. are you clean, nice hair, nice clothes, good personality, talk about anything and show interest in whatever the other person is interested in? Being a virgin at 18 is a blessing. To many problems can a rise out of random sex. However, you will know when the time is right and please be prepared to do it safely. Kindness, honesty and sincerity are plus plus plus. Education is a must. No girl wants a dumb dumb with no job and not smart enough to get one.

Answer 7

first, life is not about kissing or losing your virginity. you are 18, cultivate interests, go to college, learn to appreciate all this world has to offer. whining on an internet service will not change anything. one of your problems seems to be that you are a bit self-involved. you never once say anything about what you have to offer anyone--that you are interestyed in getting to know anyone etc. become interesting--and take a sincere interest in others and life will be more enriching--the rest will follow.

Answer 8

First, why do you hate life? What do you like to do for fun? Do you attend church? Do you work or attend school/college? All of these places--church, work, school/college--are excellent places to meet girls and develop meaningful relationships. You sound like you have allowed yourself to get in a "rut"--never go anywhere, never do anything fun. Fun doesn't always have to be about money. It can be enjoying life--being thankful for your health, having shelter, food, and family/friends, assuming that you fit this picture. Basically, take a walk on a daily basis, get out there and develop some interests and/or hobbies. Take classes to educate yourself and improve your way of life. Join an exercise/fitness center and go! Be friendly, smile often, laugh--develop a sense of humor--be happy and be proud of yourself for acknowledging that you realize you have a problem and asking for help in solving it. You're halfway to resolving your problem by acknowledging the fact that you do have an unresolved issue and that is, that you want to enjoy life and meet girls. Good for you! So, attend church on a regular basis and participate in church functions (i.e. Sunday School, church picnic, youth group/young adult activities, etc.)--you're bound to meet some girls @ church especially by becoming involved in church and its activities. Take tennis lessons or play baseball with a neighborhood team. These are just suggestions, but basically, you want to put yourself out there--to re-join the human race--obviously, sitting @ home and not participating in life itself is depressing and you definitely can't meet anyone by staying inside and not going anywhere or doing anything. Learn to have fun! Enjoy life--remember, life is for the living and you are a major part of that--so think positive.

Answer 9

well 1 wait for the right girl and 2. try dating services but maybe you were meant to do something like be a priest ( sorry if i sound a little over the top religious! but i think it is true )

Answer 10

When u find the right girl be nice but not to nice girls these days seem to like bad boys the excitement so she never knows whats going to happen next. crazy but true works for me.