Is it okay to have sex without a condom?

Question

I am on the pill and both my bf and I have tested negative for STDs. He has been asking for this for a while and I have heard that it feels significantly better. Condoms feel very impersonal to me. Does it feel better? Are there other things I should be concerned about?

Answer 1

it does feel better.. and as long as you know that even on the pill you still can get pregnant.. and if he has cheated on you it could give you a STD but if you have been going together for a long time and are in love .. go for it.. try it once and see... you might like it..

Answer 2

If you're in a serious relationship, you've both tested negative for STDs, and you're on the pill, I would think you'll be safe without condoms.

I would never condone not using condoms under any other circumstances, but since this is sex between two clean [non-cheating, hopefully] people, you should be fine.

However, I must remind you that there is no such thing as a 100% guarantee against getting pregnant, even on the pill.

Also, I would still practice the pulling-out method if you aren't using a condom. The chances of getting pregnant while on the pill from the very very minute traces of semen in "pre-***" are so small that it should not matter.

Answer 3

HPV (genital warts) is undetectable thru regular STD testing. You must have a CBC (blood draw) done and from my experience, you have to request it. It is never 100% safe or ok to not use a condom. You sound fairly young and I'll tell you that most teen girls that get pregnant ARE on the pill. The pill is not 100% effective and as a working tax paying citizen, welfare is on my dime and I would prefer it if girls your age took multiple precautions. I (nor can anyone else) tell you what to do or make this decision for you. If I were you, I would do what makes you the most comfortable. Sure it feels better without, but you have your whole life to experience that when you're older, more mature and more equipped to handle a pregnancy if it happened. My cousin is 22 with 3 kids, she's been on BC for 7 years. She was on the pill with ALL 3 CONCEPTIONS. Bad luck? Bad timing? All of the above? Either way, it can happen. Don't risk your youth on a feeling. That's my advice.

Answer 4

As long as you're SURE that you're both STD clear and there's NO chance that either of you will have alternate partners. (Gasp - I know its hard to think someone might do that !)

How long have you two been bf/gf? Some STD's don't show up positive one the first test.

The bottom line - is this a long term (i.e. years and years - not just I've loved him for the last 3 months BS) committed relationship that is monogamus? If yes, and you're been on the pill for at LEAST one cycle (so that its working) then its up for the two of you to decide.

See that's part of being an adult - only YOU can make these types of life decisions for YOURSELF.

If you're not sure, then don't risk it. He could be carrying HPV (most men never get tested for it) and unknowingly pass it on to you. HPV is the leading cause of cervical cancer in women. Make sure he's really been tested and not just telling you he's been tested.

Unless you're planning on marriage (or your engaged) I usually advise a barrier method for those reasons.

As for the feeling - there really is NOT a great deal of difference, in fact your b/f might find he gets hairtrigger trouble without the raincoat on.

Answer 5

I can say for the guy yes it feels much better , I`m not sure if it makes a difference for the woman. If you don`t have STD`s to worry about and your on the pill for at least a month go for it. Just keep in mind there still is a very small chance that you could get pregnant. Discuss what would you do then , and are you ready for that possibility.

Answer 6

Karen, don't let any guy talk you into not using a condom, regardless if you both have been tested for STD's. If it's a life long Partner or you're married, of course then I say alright. It only takes one time to catch HIV and for you to end up pregnant. (Being on the pill does not necessarily guarantee not getting pregnant). As much as you hear the words, ''I love you baby'', that soon changes when you tell them that your pregnant or something is wrong Medically. Don't do it honey. If this Gentleman cares and respects you, he will have no problem keeping it covered. Do not let anyone pressure you into making bad choices when it comes to you and your health.

Answer 7

Wearing or not wearing a condom during intercourse should be a decision you make on your own, not with the advice from yahoo answers. That being said, it does feel significantly better but even though u are on the pill, you could still get pregnant.

Answer 8

Well from personal experience i agree that condoms suck and i like the "naked" way better. however i wouldn't suggest that he *** inside of you even if you are on birth control. my bf did while i was using it, but i was way too lucky. Specially because with the pill you have to make sure you take it at exactly the same time everyday so its easy to mess it up. Just be careful and make sure you use it right and that he doesnt go inside of you!
I had a friend who used the pill and a comdom and sitll got pregnant, so be careful!!

Answer 9

I've never had sex before, so no, I don't know if how it feels change. If you do not want to get pregnant, then use a condom. Your results could say negative right now, but it can take up to two months to get the real results. If I were you, I would stick to using condoms. But, this is totally up to you.

Answer 10

i wont lie it does feel better but it isnt worth the risk the pill isnt some magic bullet that keeps you from getting pregnant. plus if he has been asking you and you have said no he should take that answer. if he loves you then he wouldnt bother you about it. also think about it this way are you ready for a baby? is he ready to have a baby? can you afford it? do you both have a stable career? if you answered no to any of these then use the condom some day you will get to not use it.