He's 12, a good boy, but, like most boys his age, sometimes he's somewhat disrespectful and sometimes likes to bully his lil sister, that is 10. I found a punishment that has worked great and is really changing the boy's behavior. When he is disrespectful or bullies his sister, I make him do extra chores wearing a full sweet frilly apron, with a large bow in the back. He gets embarrassed, but then I'm kinda form. I dont humiliate him and let him know I love him, but depending on what he did, he has to spend some hours or even a day wearing that apron. But I don't make him wear it in public or in front of his friends.
2007-06-13 11:48:20 · 3 answers · asked by Tania 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This definitely does not fall under the category of "cruel and unusual punishment." In fact, I laughed when I first read what you made him do.
It's creative and effective, and you are being careful that you don't overly humiliate him. As long as you continue doing that, I'd definitely say you're fine.
2007-06-13 11:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Renaissance Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll remember the apron--not fondly--for the rest of his life. It may not seem humiliating to you, but I'm sure he feels humiliated. This is inappropriate discipline.
Extra chores are good, though. Taking away favorite possessions--TV, computer, video, etc. can be helpful, too.
Under no circumstances should he be allowed to bully anybody, especially his little sister. If you can't get that point across to him, he needs to visit a professional. Some of America's most tragic teenage horrors have been started by a child who feels powerless because he's been bullied. Don't tolerate it.
As for disrespecting you (or other adults), you have to remember that this child is growing very quickly. If you don't get the good-manners lesson in his head soon, you may lose your chance.
2007-06-13 12:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if that's your of punishing your son that will be a punishment for him. Asking him to wear that funny apron when he does something wrong makes him feel strange or awkward. In a way he also understands that it's his punishment. He's grown enough to realize why you're asking him to house chores and wearing the apron. It also depends to him if it's okay for him to wear that apron because that's the available. If it doesn't matter to him wearing those most likely he's not affected that much wearing that apron.
2007-06-13 12:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by ☺ĦЄŖ§ĦЄ¥☺ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋