Ann Landers was busy. So it's up to you guys. My dad's getting remarried on June 30th. I'm going on vacation to California from the 19th-29th, tickets already purchased. He told me that there's a rehearsal dinner on the 29th at 6pm after I purchased the tickets. My flight gets in at 5:30pm, so that gives me half an hour (through baggage claim and the 30 minute taxi ride through rush hour traffic) to get to the dinner. I know at this point that I'll be late. I'm not in the wedding, except for a small reading. I tried to change the flight, but they all jumped up to $300 and up. I feel horrible, but he told me so late. I feel like I should change the tickets, but it's so much money. What would you do?
2007-06-13 11:41:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
As long as you are there I don't think your dad would mind, especially if you explain the situation. Just don't be late for the wedding : )
2007-06-13 11:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by chiquis707 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is tough, but you're going to have to pony up and get an earlier flight. I've flown many times and 9 times out of 10, the flights are a few minutes late..... rarely early. So, your 5:30 flight might not arrive until 5:45 , 6:00, or later. That means you would not make the dinner at all. You dad may be very understanding about all of this, but what about his bride... who you will be seeing a lot of in the future. I would run this by my dad one more time and see what he would like.
2007-06-13 18:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Operating on the assumption you and your dad have a normal, loving relationship:
as far as I'm concerned there's no valid excuse for missing any part of a wedding of a family member that you care about. So what if you have to scrounge up $300 somehow? So what if the rehearsal dinner isn't "important" enough?
I think you'll find that if you just bite the bullett and spend the money to change your flight, you'll find that it was paid for with all the good memories you'll have.
2007-06-13 19:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by hulidoshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be at your Dad's wedding. It's odd, but, people always remember who showed up to their wedding. So, even if you have to dish out the money or find some other means of travelling there, do it. He is including you in the wedding, given the distance you are travelling and everything. Consider a refund ticket , standby on a day or two earlier, a train, etc...or driving.
It's not about money. It's about being there for one's family.
2007-06-13 18:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anna Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your dad and see if he will really be upset if you aren't there on time. If he knew that you were planning this trip before he made the plans then its not very fair of him to expect you to change your plans at such a huge cost to you.
I find the timing of his telling you somewhat interesting, its too bad that both your vacation and his wedding are both so close together. I guess you have to ask yourself what you feel is more important and go from there.
Good luck and have a great vacation in Cali!
2007-06-13 18:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by BS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should:
1) Ask your dad if he can push up the rehearsal dinner a little bit
2) If not, ask him if he could pay for your flight change
3) if he says no to both 1 and 2, then he has no right to complain and go ahead and be a little late. he should understand anyway.
2007-06-13 18:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain the situation to your dad, and let him know how awful you feel about it. Ask him if it would be a big deal if you arrived late, but that you'll get there as quickly as you can. Is there any way he can change the dinner time to 7:00 instead?
2007-06-13 18:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Brooke B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep my vacation time and enjoy the heck out of it! You aren't even a big part in the wedding at you're his daughter! He should have thought to tell you earlier about the rehersal dinner. Most weddings aren't just thrown together at the last minuet(outside of Vegas at least) so he should have known to tell you.
2007-06-13 18:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Shadow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your Dad is cool, he will totally understand. It's not like you will be late to his wedding. It's the rehearsal dinner.
Just let him know...or if it really bother him ask him to fess up 300 bucks.
2007-06-13 18:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Yvonne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh. I'd go on vaca and show up at the wedding. Maybe come to rehersal late to catch up and for moral support. But don't cancel vacation and don't trip cause there's people starving, pepes in jail, pepes in a lot of trouble outside of that, but you get my point. It's a comprimise and you both get what you want.
2007-06-17 04:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by shhhhhhhhhh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋