I need some help. What would you do if one day you found out your fiance was looking for sex with other woman in internet one year ago.Your boyfriend for more than 2 years, your future husband who tells you everyday "I love you more than anyone in this world". How do you act? What do you do? I am completely desperated. I feel so confused. We have a long distance relationship, but he has swore me he was faithful.We had future plans, I have already bought the ticket for spend my holidays with him next month. Please give me some advice.
2007-06-13 11:23:03 · 14 answers · asked by Babybear_23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are several problems here. The first one is that it is a long distance relationship. You don't really know anybody until you spend lots of time with them. When you see someone once in awhile, they are always on good behavior like on a date. That isn't real life. As for the internet girls, I would ask more questions about that. Did he meet any of the girls in person? Did he talk dirty on the internet? You have some thinking to do to decide if he is really husband material. Does this mean that if you aren't in town, he feels free to play on the internet? Sounds like you have some trust issues that you need to settle with him before you ever consider marriage. Also, he may be sorry that he got caught and not sorry that he did it. Big difference.
2007-06-13 11:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to think about it. If he was just looking, then I know that it doesn't soften up the fact that he was still looking but he didn't do anything with another woman. May you two need to talk this issue out and see where the relationship is heading. If he has absolutely no remorse for what he did then obviously you would end the relationship. Maybe you both need to move closer to each other so that you can make a strong effort to work on your relationship. But ultimately, it comes down to how strongly you feel about him looking. Do you really think that if he found someone that he would go through with it?
2007-06-13 11:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he or did he actually have sex with someone? If not I would not worry about it. It appears that he was chatting on line with other females. Not a great choice however, it was a long time ago, the two of you were not together. He probably got lonely, if he did not actually do anything, and has made a pledge not to do it anymore. I could probably move forward and forgive him for this indiscretion... We all make bad choices in life, that is how we learn. Talk to him and express your feelings and listen to what he says to you. Then make your decision from there. Keep in mind no one is perfect we all make a few bad choices in life, this is how we learn. God bless****
2007-06-13 11:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a refund on your tickets. He's not ready for anything serious if he's looking on the internet for a quick sexual encounter. Let him know that you found out and that you don't want contact with him anymore. You deserve better than him.
2007-06-13 11:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Katy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Bye, bye, loser." And I'd leave. There's no way I'd trust him completly after that. As much as it would hurt to walk away, staying with him and always feeling like you never really knew what was going on would be way more painful. It'll drive you insane eventually. Why go through all that? Move on. Find someone who ONLY wants to have sex with YOU. It's possible.
2007-06-13 11:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could experience in basic terms as jealous as you experience if my fiance replaced into doing this continuously! i do no longer understand how he can not see which you experience injury whilst he's continuously judging different women people's seems once you're desirable there with him! If he had to get that out of his device, then he ought to do it together with his guy friends and not in front of you-- and that's on the least! So it seems such as you have instructed him the way you experience earlier, and he's in basic terms accused you of being jealous. i could tell him "particular, i assume i'm jealous when you consider that all you do is seem at another lady different than me whilst we are out." Then i could ask him how he'd experience if i replaced into continuously finding at different adult males and telling him who replaced into the main well-liked one whilst we are out. If he can not understand the way it somewhat is hurting you, then he ought to a minimum of understand that it somewhat is hurting you and he ought to end in basic terms in step with that. If he can not end his habit, i could question if i could prefer to stay the the remainder of my existence with a guy who continuously seems at different women people-- ought to that for the period of all probability bring about extra interior the destiny, including cheating?
2016-10-17 04:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by ramswaroop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on if you think you can rebuild your relationship. Basically, when a similar situation happened to me, I couldn't trust him anymore. At all. But I wasn't engaged, either.
You need to talk to him about it, but always keep in mind, just because he says he was faithful - it doesn't mean he actually was. Find out why he felt he needed to go online to find someone else.
2007-06-13 11:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but, i'd dump him and get your money back for the tickets. he's surfing the net for sex and you have a long distance relationship. odds are, it won't change once you're married. sounds like he's trying to eat his cake and have it too. considering you're confused and despeate, i'd say you alreadyknew all of this.
2007-06-13 11:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exchange the tickets for travel in the opposite direction.The price of these tickets are not worth the trouble you would find yourself in
if you marry this guy.Do you realize that the information you have now is only the tip of the iceberg?
2007-06-13 11:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this loser. If he plays around now, he'll play around when you're married.
Words are cheap; actions speak louder. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you have nothing.
2007-06-13 11:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Juanitaville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋