What do you do when your 15 year old daughter says, Mom I took a test and I am pregnant.?

Question

She got a $1.50 test from big lots.

Kenny the worm that was uncalled for.

Everyone thank you so much. Of course I will support my daughter. I love her no matter what. She is pregnant, and I am going to be a grandma. So we will deal with this one day at a time. I still may have questions for you in days to come. But I love her and she loves me and we will deal with this. Thank you so much, you proved to me, that there is love and help in this life when you least expect it. Thank you again.

Answer 1

Okay, talking from experience, the first thing you must let her know is that she has options. It is okay for you to ponder about alternatives and ask questions. The internet is a good source as well. Then ask her about her beliefs and what she wants out of life. Do not get angry. It is a good thing that she came to you at all. Let her know the truth about being pregnant, about the dedication and the commitment and how she can achieve greatness no matter what .
Ask about the father. Actually to a certain degree he is irrelevant because he shows that lack of maturity and it is your child unless he is one of few good men. Let her know about single parenting but also let her know that single parents dont always stay single parents. Also let her know that after the first time, it is easy to keep getting pregnant so discuss protection.
There is no free invite back to a party like this. The next is not free its on you what to do (taxed).
Once fool on me
Twice fool on you
Any times after that is you too.
I love you no less but growning starts somewhere speech.
I love my grandkids but I am not their mother speech.
You are responsible for the lives you create even if there is no one else speech.


I am now 25. I graduate form college in December. My daughter is now 9 and excelling well in school. She is in the 4th grade. I will soon be a home owner within the year with my one of my two child care establishments up and running by Jan 08. Single parent and only one kid. I followed the advice.

It only stops you if you let it.The choice is yours; just make sure that all parties are well informed. Since you are the adult and she is a minor then you have the last say so. Communication is the key to making sound concrete decisions and just dont gve up!

Answer 2

Explain to her that she needs to go to the OBGYN because it is possible (although not probable) to get a false positive from an over the counter test and the doc will be more accurate. Make the appt with her at your side and do your best to be supportive.

Your daughter needs you now more than ever. Leave any judgments in the pillow you may cry into when you are alone and hold her up in both of your times in need. More than ever let her know that you will support her and love her no matter what.

Answer 3

First, tell your daughter that you love her. Tell her no matter what happens, pregnant or not, that you love her and you will always love her, and that you will be there, right next to her, through all the steps that might happen. Next, call the nearest obgyn or if you dont have insurance, doctor, etc, go to the nearest Planned Parenthood, they do pregnancy tests for very cheap, and have great, caring doctors on staff to help your daughter make the right choice. If having a baby at her stage in life does not fit in her plan, be supportive of her choosing an abortion. If having the baby fits in her life, help her decide to raise it with the support of family, or give it up for adoption. Do not tell her father until she is ready to do so herself or asks you to do it for her.
Good luck, and remember, there are no "shoulda, woulda, coulda's" in this instance, just be there for your daughter.

Answer 4

Ok. Two weeks ago I had this same problem and the best thing I can say is be patient and give the best advice on what is in the best interest of your child. The first thing we decided on doing was to find out how far my daughter was within that pregnancy then we could better plan out what was the best option for her. When we found that she was less amount of weeks then thought of we then was able to excute the plan of termination due to this child has alot going on for herself she is an honor roll student, popular, a cheerleader and at times can be a handful, she also has alot of opportunities to continue her life and go to college.

Let your daughter know you have to go according to the best interest of life. No matter what tell her you love her. We all have done things at one point or another. Hell, I was a teenage parent when I was 16 years old and I let my daughter know of what I could do oppose to what I could not do. My life completely stopped other then me continue going to school, I could not do what eveyone my age was doing any longer. Prom, parties, movies, rollerskating etc. I had to be a parent it was not easy but I did it. and my parents hung in there by a limb but I am here to say find out what is in the best interest of your daughter before any undecided decisions come your way. Bottom line that is your child, and you are responsible for life and things get too tough it will fall on you.

Before we terminated my daughter's pregnancy, I also made an appointment for her to see the GYN in 8 weeks for the Deprova shot, so that I can better monitor what is going on with my daughter.

Answer 5

Those cheap, blowout sale items at Big Lots are so reliable. It's a good thing she didn't spend good money on going to a doctor for a real test. Otherwise you might find out she could not be pregnant.

If she is, then just love her and help her get threw it. Help her file for child support and sole custody.

She's just learned a few valuable lessons . . .
1)having sex does get you pregnant.
2)real life happens when you act like an adult.
3) if her bf bailed on her, she knows teenage boys are not ready for responsibility.

Answer 6

First go get a real home pregnancy test if that comes out + go to the doctor if that comes out + Good Luck your road is about to become very long and tough for the both of you. Whatever you do don't be judgemental, everyone makes mistakes this is just going to be one she can't shake, Love and care for your daughter like never before and though I personally don't condone abortion you should respect whatever decision she chooses to make.

Answer 7

First, get a real test, just to make sure.

Support her. If you are disappointed, she probably already knows that.

But, there is a life in her now. Life is sacred, special and worth celebrating. It's a tough road for her, so she needs Mom's support and guidance. Then, she needs to weigh the options of raising the baby or adoption.

Answer 8

First, be as supportive as you possibly can be. Second, get her a Dr.'s appointment to have the pregnancy confirmed.
If she decides to keep the baby help her make a plan, if she decides to place it up for adoption, support that decision as well.
UNCONDITIONAL love is a big help to her.

Answer 9

you find out for sure, if she's really not, keep a real good eye on her. if she is, you love her, and support her, and help her through this, she will need a friend and a shoulder to cry on. and you will be angry, but she needs help to raise this child. let her know you will be here for her to teach her the most important things she needs to know in this life and that is how to be as good as a mom as you were to her.

Answer 10

Support her. Not getting support at home when face with a problem this big can lead a child to suicide.

Take her to the doctor, or a clinic, for an exam.