Have you ever been Speechless with sorrow?

Question

I have been overwhelmed by illiness in my family. My 90 year old Dad had a massive stroke, his brother( my uncle just had cancer of the colon and surgery for that, my Mother's brother just had major surgery and almost died, and my aunt just broke her back in two places, my cousin just passed away and this woman wants to argue with me over stupid stuff.I broke and started to cry over all of the stress and she called me a cry baby. I need your prayers.I am a very out going person but I just want to keep to myself and stay away from people for a few days.

Answer 1

Yes. On the night my ten year old son died of cancer. I tend to be a very chatty Kathy type of person, always happy and talking and joking. That is me. But, when my son got cancer, it was hard, but God got me thru it, and now I hold on to the good memories, and i know if God had to take Him early, He had His reasons. HE let me have that child as MINE for a little while, and if I had to give Him back as part of Gods will, then so be it. HE always has His reasons for all He does, and we must believe that, and stay in prayer, keep our faith and know in Heaven we will get our loved ones back. Press on with JEsus. BUt, on the evening that my son Shon died, I can tell you, It was the darkest moment of my life. I could barely shed a tear, and didnt for years. I now God then, but didnt now Him very well, and surely not in an intimate relationship with Him. So, I pulled everything in, and felt an incredible, undescrible sorrow, where I just shut down. Everyone in my family was falling apart, and as usual, good old fix everyone Shirley had to stay strong for everyone else. I didnt allow myself to grieve even for years. And I had another little boy to take care of. But, after a long time of that, I did get to Know God personally, and He showed me it was ok to grieve and how to do it, and it was a hard time, but I was victorious over that and every other thing that had haunted me for years. God can heal us of everything. WE cant allow the devil to let us shut down, get angry and stay there or get sad and stay there. For years I was in depression. But when I truly learned out hope is in Jesus Christ, its hard to stay down once you realize all of that truth of God. Know it is ok to cry, that is normal. For years I wouldnt allow myself that right. Once I did, I couldnt stop for a long time and ppl made fun of me too, saying to shut up and get over it, did no good to cry. Yes, it did, released the grief. Just wish I knew how much I could go to Jesus then . But, I didnt. But, you know what , the KOOLEST thing, He was there for me, even when I didnt knot or understand that, and He is here for all of us now, if we will just call on Him. I was a very out going person too , like you, and I stopped that, and became withdrawn and so sad all of the time. Could not get over the loss of my child. BUt, once we go to Jesus, keep our faith, He will get us thru anything. Jesus Heals, Jesus Saves and Jesus delivers, and He will get you thru this and anything else too, if you will love Him, go to Him, and obey Him. OBedience brings blessing. REMEMBER. Disobedience brings further curse, and wont let us heal. Doesnt mean we did anything wrong to lose a famly member. But, to heal from it, we must stay close to God and in His full protective care. That is what abiding in God means. Staying with Him, in Jesus Christ, and loving GOd enough to obey. Then, our healing is just a matter of time. Dont let the devil let you succeed at pulling away. Once it starts, it can last for years. That is what happened to me. I got so far away, I like to never have come back. But, Jesus got a hold of me, and I am back. Happy as ever. Tomorrow is the 31st anniversary of my sons death, and now I can light candles for him, remember him so fondly, precious memories, and just spend part of the day in rembrance, and thanking God for the time I had this precious child as MY little boy. I also can tell you this, but wont detail story here, but I found out later from God why He had to take my son home early, and oh yes , He had his reasons. Lets say, things would happen shortly after that, that were so painful, that God knew my son could not possible handle, he was a sensitive, loving little boy, God took him early to spare him the pain of it all. We just dont see the full picture of why GOd does things. BUt, He always has His reasons. Press on with Jesus. Dont give up. The best way we honor God and our lost loved ones, and those still alive to, is by finding our way back to God, staying there, and being happy and joyful. Our loved ones that passed on wouldnt want us to go in grief and stay there and lose all joy. WE get our joy back for God and for them, and ourselves. Once we loose our Joy, we loose our strgenth, for the Joy of the Lord is our strngth. Hold onto that , and press on with Jesus. God bless you. all of us Christians on here need to be praying for you. I know I will, and for all of your family. I too have lost so much, but one day I will get it all back. Devil takes so much from us. Lets not let him take anymore or rob us of the peace and joy of the Lord.

Answer 2

Yes, I have, but in it I could not even pray, only to cry "Oh God"! I would lie prostrate on the floor of my living room to do this, and there was never a time when I didn't come away without His comfort. My 12 year old son died very tragically, and although his death was an accident, the way he died brought suspician to others which made the time very difficult. Even the media played games with it, however, the Lord has brought me through. I read God's Word, the Bible, and this helped heal me too! He has indeed turned my mourning into dancing and my sorrow into joy.
Sorrow may last for a night, but joy comes in the morning, the Bible says.

How long should you grieve? - The answer to that is: How long is a piece of string! One of the most welcome things someone said to me at the time is to be kind to myself. It was simple, but profound. If you need to stay away from people for a bit then do so, but don't for too long. Find someone you can trust to offload too. Don't offload to too many people because you will come across those who don't understand your thoughts and feelings, and they might judge you, or say something that makes things worse. Most do this unintentionally, because they feel they need to say something, but don't know what to say, so they just come out with anything.

I will be praying for you my dear.
The Lord bless you!

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for your pain. Two years ago, two dear friends died, one of them on the same day my brother died, then another dear friend had a massive stroke (all in a three-month period). "Speechless with sorrow" doesn't even begin to describe it.

Stay away from people as long as you need to. You are not a crybaby. You're in pain.



P.S. - Just so you know . . .

crybaby: A person who cries or complains frequently with little cause (American Heritage Dictionary, Second College Edition)

Anyone who calls you a crybaby is not just being cruel, they're also an idiot.

Answer 4

Yes I have been speechless with sorrow,I'm sorry for how your cousins wife treated you.She just may not understand your deep grief.Forgive her,Jesus understands what you feel,he felt it too.You will rise out of despair in your own time.The steps of grieving are different for all of us,be patient with yourself,and its OK to stay away from people for a time.If it lasts too long though you may need to see a doctor many during times like you have experienced can fall into a clinical depression.I am not saying you have this but if your sadness lasts for more then 6 months be kind to yourself and seek help.You will be in my prayers,remember how God loves you and captures every tear.Be blessed and loved

Answer 5

Yes, in the 1980s I lost my husband and five year old daughter. I sat for six months, just sat. Wouldn't eat unless someone fed me. I just remember wanting to die, but I didn't die.

I know I spoke a little bit during that time, but not very much. I wasn't able to speak, didn't care anyway, and didn't have the strength even if I had wanted to, from the depth of the sorrow.

Some time from now you'll look back on everything you're going through, and not even believe that you made it through. But you'll be glad you did though, so don't give up, just take whatever time you need to be quiet and to deal with what you're going through.

Answer 6

I became that way when my brother was killed in a car accident. Worst thing was--it was his fault. He was driving drunk. Thank God he didn't kill anyone else. I couldn't expect someone to understand when he did it to himself. That didn't help my pain though. Just because he basically killed himself didn't make my grief any less. It took me a good two years before I could even talk about it. I didn't even talk about it with my husband. My husband never liked him anyway--I don't think he would want to hear my words.
Just hide yourself for a while. Not too long or depression will set in. Just a little while. Then pick yourself up again and dust yourself off when you are ready.
Good luck--it's a long lonely road.
This is not my only loss, just the one that affected me the most.

Answer 7

You will absolutely be in my prayers.
Sometimes when we are overwhelmed, that is all we can do -- PRAY! And know that God will reveal himself to us. Believe me, I know I felt like this (and still do sometimes) when my father died. We really do need to give ourselves the time to grieve; and sometimes that means being alone with our own thoughts, not speaking to anyone. And it is very true that people will get on our berves; and we will cry at the drop of a hat. It is going to be two years since my father died, and I still have my moments of anger and sadness... and I also have my moments of joy because of the wonderful relationship I had with him and my knowing that he is in his Eternal Home!
God bless you with peace, joy, hope and strength for the journey!

Answer 8

That woman is stupid and heartless. Anyone who suffers such a loss does need time to recover, a few hours alone but not a few days, you need help, even just a presence with you. If you have to face that woman ask a friend or family for help, even to meet her for you. Don't be alone to face demands when you are so badly hurt and fragile.
I can't offer you prayers, I don't believe in them and wouldn't belittle you with a lie, but I can try help you with those few counsels. They helped me to go through a very bad period myself, I hope they will help you.

Answer 9

Pamela ,Right now I am going through a trial myself,my father on sunday fell in the bathroom and we have had a time of it.I will pray for your family..please pray for mine...we all need each other during these critical times,hard to deal with, soon God will remove pain and death from this old world, and a new earth and a hew heavens will be here! all this misery will all be behind us.

Answer 10

Good heavens, who is that awful woman? Egads..... take a good long bath, wrap yourself up in a nice fuzzy blanket, watch a good movie, and get some rest. It is perfectly ok for you to spend some time to build up your reserves, I am sure with all that going on in your family, you need to, and it's important for you to take care of yourself, so you can take care of your family more effectively. Whoever that awful person is, just stay away from her as much as possible, she doesn't sound like anyone constructive to be around. I am off to light a candle for you right now, take care.....

Answer 11

I can sympathise with you at the moment
I have just spent all night at hospital with my mum who also recently had a stroke but was getting well , but last night she collapsed and gave her self a nasty bump and concusion
I have many around me that are ill at the moment
and sometimes it feels as though you are spreading your self very thinly doesnt it

I really do wish you well and hope you find strength to cope with all that is happening around you
take some times out to rest
much love to you xx