Seriously, its the most mindboggling thing to me. I date a woman things go well and she says "Your too good for me"
and doesnt want to continue.
I mean arent you supposed to like people who are good for you?
2007-06-13 10:09:30 · 27 answers · asked by Avatar_defender_of_the_light 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she has cheated an feels guilty
2007-06-13 10:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all have secrets in in our life. Some we take to our grave and others we share reluctantly. Woman just like men have things we hide. I know there are things I carry with me which I plan to never share unless I have to. Your girlfriend may be feeling that she really is not good for you. I know I have let go of a guy in the past because I felt that I wasn't good enough for him. There is no easy way to say this or explain but the best way to understand is to ask her to sit down for lunch to talk. She may have done something in the past or had something happen to her which makes her feel dirty and used. Or maybe someone hurt her in the past and she is trying not to hurt you. She may have her own reason but most woman have something lingering in their past when they say that. Was she just out of a relationship? She could have her heart broken and is in the process of picking up the pieces. In her mind it may unfair for you to have to help her with that. Her self worth could be low and she may feel honestly that she is not the best person for you. How is her confidence? Is she very confident or does she put herself down or refuse compliments. My best bet is tell her you want to talk and ask her upfront to explain.
2007-06-13 10:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by luv_mriss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only time those words have come out of my mouth were when i felt that a man has given himself up to me before i've earned it... if a man makes a woman work for his affections(not courtesy, a gentleman must always be courteous), that woman feels that he is something worth the effort. if it's too easy for her, he seems desperate, and a woman will not feel special. don't try so hard. we love men to have interests outside of our relationship... just not too many. these silly games make a woman feel like they will need to be on their toes to keep you happy, and if you do this right, so will you. we want to feel like we alone hold the key to a particular man's affections. if he offers them too easily, then what makes me unique from other women?
2007-06-13 10:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one way that a woman will "tell" you that she is not interested in you. She is trying to let you down easy. Kind of like when someone says they just want to be friends.
Or she may be so insecure, that your "goodness" intimates her. In that case, depending upon the length of time you know one another, try and find out why it is she feels unworthy!
2007-06-13 10:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Julie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally it sounds like she's been in a bad relationship before and was made to feel like she wasn't worthy of being treated with love and respect! Or it could be a cop out and way of getting out with out being truthful! Just tell her that you disagree that you think she is worthy of being treated good and that you'll continue to do so if she give you the chance, unless the truth is that there is really another reason and she's trying to spare your feelings!
2007-06-13 10:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with MichaelB... women are taught to be non confrontational.... too good for her means goodbye... men on the other hand are cowardly.. they prefer just to let things die without saying anything....and often can't choose between their wives and their girlfriends to avoid making decisions...they prefer the woman to say "I've had it"
2007-06-13 10:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say there's a 10% chance that she really means it and has low self-esteem and theat there's about a 90% chance that she's just not attracted to you but doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
2007-06-13 10:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Delicious Pear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably she is afraid to begin a new ralationship, or she has something to hide. Realize that she told you what she felt. Many women sometimes think that they are not enough good to have a relatioship with a man who can love them.
2007-06-13 10:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience, this usually means that the girl is a slut and has issues with it. She's got low self-esteem because she's F'd so many guys, and now she doesn't think she deserves a good guy.
2007-06-13 10:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by JakeZula 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simply, this is her way of letting you down "easy." Dont try to read too much into it. Low self esteem on peoples part makes for these types of let downs.
2007-06-13 10:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by lawyerslastbreath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to be with you ... the same as when a guy says it...
its over... it may sound respectful .. but really its about guilt, and not respectful
Dr Bad
take her word for it .. and get rid of her
2007-06-13 10:14:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋