if i go 2 to the wedding, wont it show that i support the actually wedding? WHEN I DONT.
Why do i have to attend for? I'll tell her that I'm there for her anyway.
a wedding is just one day, I'll be there for HER for the rest of HER LIFE. So comparing to one day and the rest of her life, whats better?
she wants to marry someone thats very immature:
she's bipolar, everytime she went manic her boyfriend tells her not to take meds or to be hospitalized, (even though she does get better everytime with the help of meds and hospital)
He told her to become a stripper when she was unemployed
He hits her back (bruises), once there was a dent on the wall from their fight
etc.
i hope to God they don't marry because i know he won't take care of her especially when she goes manic.
HES JUST NOT A GOOD GUY 4 her.
So WHY SHOULD I ATTEND THE WEDDING, it's just one day, i will feel SICK if they actually wed., i already do..
2007-06-13 09:53:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you don't go to her wedding, she is going to be mad at you and it will cause a rift in your relationship.
If this marriage is as doomed as you say, then its only a matter of time before she is going to need you in her life. She will need her sister to be there for her. But she isn't going to approach you for that help if she's mad at you or if there's a rift. Instead, she'll think "I can't go to her for help. She didn't approve of the marriage anyway, and I don't want to listen to her say I told you so."
2007-06-13 10:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding. You'll regret it if you don't. Not going will just look immature on your part, so don't let your sister get the best of you. If your sister is in love, nothing you say or do will make her change her mind about this guy she's marrying. So you might as well save your energy, go to the wedding, let your sister know that you're there for her, and let her cry on your shoulder when they divorce in a year.
2007-06-13 14:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just said that you support your sister so going to her wedding is part of supporting her. You will be there for her not the man she is marrying. And if you want her to be happy you should be there for her on her special day. And you will let her know that if she needs anything, any help from you, you will always be there for her. If you don't go then she might think that you don't care about her. If you feel that he is abusive towards her and sees bruises on her you should go to the police. Have you talked to her about those situations?
2007-06-13 10:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only and the best reason is because she is your sister.
Now during the ceremony there is a part where the minister asks, "If there is anyone present who knows just cause why this union should not take place, let him/her speak now or forever hold their peace." This would be the time for you to voice your reasons, then the minister may even refuse to finish the vows.
Hopefully, she will come to her senses before walking down the aisle and dump this loser...at best try to talk her (and him) into counseling about why she's putting up with the abuse.
2007-06-13 10:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she's your sister.
I'm hoping she will see what you are saying, that he is not right for her. Have you sat her down and actually had a long talk about this with her? If you are really worried tell her how you feel and maybe she will just know you are truthful in your worry and consider changing her decisions.
If she decides to go through with the wedding go to it becase it will break her heart if her own brother/sister doesn't attend her wedding.
Are there others in your family who agree with your views of her partner?
2007-06-13 10:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by wait what are we talking about. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
third wedding ceremony? 6 months? Is your sister related to J-Lo? i'm able to grant my own opinion, yet that herein lays the undertaking. it particularly is ultimately approximately her decision, and he or she will do what she needs. possibly she is greater in love with the *concept* of weddings and the attention particularly than heavily desirous to marry her companions? if so, this could nicely be a intense psychological subject that desires expert help. notwithstanding, i'm no longer likely to %. on the bride, when you consider that I have no know-how as to why her marriages failed. possibly it had no longer something to do together with her. I agree that possibly it particularly is her fiance who needs the marriage. or possibly she particularly thinks there is not any different "ideal" thank you to get married. mutually because it particularly is authentic that some travellers could be dissatisfied that they are predicted to return and forth throughout returned and purchase a marriage present for yet yet another wedding ceremony, some positively will prefer to bypass help her no remember what. enable her have her wedding ceremony, and leave it as much as the travellers to return to a selection what they are going to do. some will come and produce presents fortunately, some won't come era. If she sees that maximum of her travellers at the instant are not coming, she could even scale the marriage down herself. Who is acquainted with? The third time's the allure, ideal? ;) P.S. i'm going to additionally say that the divorce expenditures get greater and better for each marriage after the 1st. She has an exceptionally intense risk of having divorced returned merely in line with stats. possibly she, like many others, desires to verify the justifications why her marriages failed before leaping in headfirst into yet another relationship. It feels like she could desire to be greater targeting her marriage than the marriage itself.
2016-10-07 11:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by lachermeier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason to attend the wedding would be to show your sister that you really do support her as your sister.
Perhaps you could attend the ceremony, so that she knows you were there to share the moment that she considers special, but skip the reception, so that she also knows you're not going to celebrate such a tragic union.
2007-06-13 10:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything about her marriage to this man that you CAN get behind? Like the fact of her happiness, and that she has a man to take care of her and help with the money? Maybe he is the only one in the world who knows she likes her back rubbed when she can't sleep. The point is, you don't know everything about her, like maybe why she loves this man. Pull your head out of your butt and go to her wedding. This isn't about you or your feelings.
2007-06-13 10:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation is out of control. Just be there for your sister and maybe she will listen to you in the future instead of her husband when he tells her not to take her meds. I hope for your sister's sake that they call the wedding off.
2007-06-13 10:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Go to the wedding and when they ask why denies they should be together ....GET UP AND EXPLAIN WHY
2. Go and walk out when the question is asked
3. Dont goa nd stay at home
4. Pray for an answer of what to do these were just suggestions!!!
2007-06-13 16:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋