My boyfriend and I had been dating almost a year. Some small problems, but we talked and decided to work on them.Then a few days ago, he just broke up with me. It was pretty out of the blue, and he just said that there is something he needed to do and can't while we're together. He's had a history of smoking weed, but it seems so long ago, I hadn't even remembered all the trouble from it. I just don't know how to take this; is he going to start smoking again, or get together with someone to see if he even cares about me? He then told me later that it would take 3 weeks to a month for him to do this thing that he won't tell me. Am I expected to just wait around for him after all this? In three weeks am I just supposed to forget it all went on? I just wish I knew what he "needs to do alone" and what I should do once he's done it. I can't think of any reasons that I could understand it. Has anyone gone through this? I miss him, but I don't know if all this should be easily forgiven.
2007-06-13 09:47:10 · 11 answers · asked by sparklenfin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's pretty preposterous that he would think that you'd wait around for him. If you think it's something that's detrimental, and it probably is cuz he won't tell you, then I don't think you should wait for him. You've probably hit the nail on the head with the weed or other girl. I wouldn't wait around for him. This just doesn't seem right. It'll be hard to let go but since he's feeling resentment over something that he "can't do with you" then he's probably already stopped thinking about things with you. If he cared about you truly, then he wouldn't have to do this.
2007-06-13 09:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by scoobydoo316316 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it can happen, how many times in recent living history have we come a button press away from destroying eachother? EVERY single civilisation comes to an end at some point, sometimes followed by long periods of regressive dark ages. I really don't think of a matter of IF, more a matter of when. As for future archeology, no I think we have left a much larger impact on our planet than previous civilisations, it would make it a lot more difficult for the modern world to dissapear without a trace. And by the way, I do wholeheartedly believe that an advanced culture existed during and at the end of the last ice age, one that influenced subsequent cultures as diverse as ancient egypt and Asia. But the so called rocket ships and spacemen version of Atlantis is a modern myth propogated by fiction from the 30's through to the 60's and even beyond. Much more likely the technology reffered to sewer systems/aqueducts, medical advances, political advances, etc. Much like how we would imagine Rome, or the closing years of Ancient Egypt, only 10,000 years earlier.
2016-05-19 03:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shock for you and how puzzling. I wouldn't wait around for him by staying home depressed but I wouldn't rush out to meet someone else either. Start some new interests or join some clubs and keep busy. After the month is up I would contact him (if he hasn't contacted you) and see what is happening and take it from there. I have to say though that there is no way would I stay in a relationship with someone that couldn't talk to me about what they were doing for three weeks. The not knowing would drive me mad.
Could he be de-toxing or similar? Just a thought.
2007-06-13 09:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is over, at least for now. Either he is in some trouble and doesn't want to tell you, or he is with someone else. In either case, you need to get on with your life. If he can't even trust you with the facts, then you don't want to be involved - and that's not a basis for any relationship.
There's more here than meets the eye. Move on. He'll soon come to regret it.
2007-06-13 10:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep, sounds like a jail sentence. 3 weeks to a month is a typical jail sentence for marijuana possession -- although the amount he possessed to be given such a sentence varies from state to state.
Get rid of him. You don't want to end up having to deal with his problems. Have some respect for yourself and allow the relationship to end permanently. Don't fall for any sweet-talk, either.
2007-06-13 09:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by hbomb8404 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one time a guy i started seeing, and was very involved actually broke up with his girl sothat him and i could see if we had something worth goin after...apparently we did, at least for a while, cause he did break it off with her...and never got back together with her...at least in the 3 months that him and i were together...
i feel for you girl...
2007-06-13 09:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by lil gaper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, this guy is a druggie loser, start dating to find a man that will be your life partner not dating for fun.
2007-06-13 09:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think. Is there any reason or any set of circumstances that would cause you to treat him this way?
2007-06-13 09:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's going to jail
2007-06-13 09:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
rehab
2007-06-13 09:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋