I have more than enough money to move down there, and get settled till i can get another job, and she's flipping out at me, saying that i'm being selfish, immature, and irrisponsible by moving. she's always trying to control me and live my life for me. I'm moving away so that i can live my life, and make my own mistakes...why can't she just see that?
2007-06-13 09:39:17 · 11 answers · asked by Coolies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mother isn't being what you'd call the typical mother. since i was 11, and even younger, i've been left in the house while she was at work, and left to fend for my self. yes i can see where you all might come from saying that 18 yrs old is to young but i've been rasing her and my self since i was 11. my grandmother was my mom. yes i can see where she's looking out for me, but she went and freaked out on me. going so far as to yell at me for an hr straight and not listen to what i was saying at all. then went even father and started to attack me physicaly. so you all really think that she's looking out for what's best for her daughter? i'm sorry i'm moving so far away to get out of a household where i get abused!
2007-06-13 12:03:41 · update #1
because you are young... 18 isnt old enough for that, trust me...
2007-06-13 09:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It a parents job to protect, cloth, educate, feed there children. No matter how old you are you still are her child. Moving in with your boyfriend and going to Florida with no job set up is not very smart. How long do you think the money you have will last? Do you have any idea of the pay scale and coast of living is? I don't think you thought this through. Also what is the boyfriend bringing to the table other then his bags?
If you were smart you would learn from other peoples mistakes rather then look to make them yourself. Your mother is right..
2007-06-13 09:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in deep $hit he will leave you besides all of them do! the possibilities of him sticking around are so slender they could't be measured. he will discover some lame a$$ excuse to leave, considered it repeatedly. notwithstanding it isn't the tip of the international you will have it no longer elementary by capacity of your self yet your no longer the 1st and you isn't the final! the ultimate element you're able to do is once you spot a white lady with a black guy tell her what she's in for possibly shop her the soreness! White females are the black guy's trophy till they get knocked up then this is down the line they bypass.
2016-10-07 11:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by lachermeier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's having a hard time cutting the "apron strings" and letting you go! And the "selfish" comment sounds like she's trying to say that she needs you there and thinks you're thinking of your needs and your happiness...which you are, but I don't necessarily see that as selfish...you're just trying to be the independent adult that you are! Just talk to her and tell her that she's spent 18 years raising you and teaching to be independent and make good decisions and this is the time in your life for you to finally get to put that into practice! Remind her that moving away from her and making a life for yourself and following your dreams does not mean that you're writing her off and don't love her anymore! Some people are afraid of change, but change is inevitable! Just stand by your decision and tell her that you don't want to leave on bad terms with her, but you wish she'd trust you enough to be able to make decisions concerning your life!
2007-06-13 09:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is your mother and brought you into this world. She sacraficed 18 years of her life to raise you. That is how most mothers react when their children leave.
Try not to be mad at her or think that she is controlling you. Try to reassure her that you will call her frequently and will visit her. Let her know she is welcome to come visit you whenever she wants. She probably isn't happy that your first move of independence involves moving in with a boyfriend either.
So try to have a little understanding and give her the benefit of the doubt. She probably loves you very much and is upset that her girl is now an adult and is finally leaving home.
2007-06-13 09:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Junebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello i too am moving to fl.with my bf.. heres what you need to do.. go on the internet and google .. info on apartments in jacksonville, fl com .. the lowest one is around $550.00 and then go over to hot jobs.com and see if you can line someting up..research it so you know what your getting into.. i was raised there.. but moved away 13yrs ago.. and now i am going back.. if you dont have any skills it will be a bit hard//but there is a motel there..regency inn that rents by the week around $200.00 that is for 3 people i think for 2 it is a little cheaper not much..rent on a 3 bd 2 bt trailer is around 600 and up,, her fears not uncommon.. and this is comming from some one who is moving there.. if you can go to a book store or news stand and get a florida paper and see what i mean.. i may go bankrupt when i move .. but i am moving.. but i have family there.and it is my birth place
2007-06-13 10:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your mom is flipping out abuot it it's just her job as the parental to take care of her children it's the "motherly instinct" besides i think really waht makes her so worried is that your moving in with your boyfriend...so many things can be running through her mind such as what is gonna happen if nothing goes right?? and etc. see all these things come with the moherly instinct. I thinks it's just best that you sit down and talk with her (including your boyfriend) and show her all your plans and what you will be doing or where you will be living. believe i was in the same situation as you and since my boyfriend and i have talked to our parents they are more trusting of us. I just hope it works out for you too
2007-06-13 10:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by trayjohnson23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say,Coolies, but your mom is right, take it from me, I studied and finished High school in Saudi Arabia, Finished Medical school there (if your saudi, its free, as long as you have a 95% and higher average in High school-that was long, 8 years of Med School) ,so I wanted to come here (Canada) to finish my residency and fellowship (Medical Steps) and my mom (when I proposed the Idea I was 29, not 18 years old, 29) went crazy and said no, in the end, she gave in, she knew I was old enough,so 18 is probably too young, and shes afraid you might end up on the streets.
2007-06-13 09:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to realize, THAT IS YOU MOM, she birthed you raised you and wants whats best for you. Not to mention she would probably miss you. Now i am only 22 but I have seen what life is like and it is rough. Your mom just wants you to take it slowly and plan ahead. Not to mention you are only 18, i know you want your independence but **** stay home as long as you can, mortgage and rent is a *****.
2007-06-13 09:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by dancinphil24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because she knows that it will be hard for you, especially in FL, I lived there so u will be miserable. Not only that u are moving w/this man, honey u may want to rethink why can u not move out of her home instead of moving to another state. Think about it before u do it.
2007-06-13 09:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by NICI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋