I am seeing a lot of post's where people are saying they have sex with their boyfriend or girlfriend, what makes that ok? honestly if you are gonna get married with that person, why have pre-marital sex? he(she) can still leave you, and then what? you have a baby and he(she) is having a normal life, and how would you feel getting a girl pregnant but not loving her so you leave her? how would you validate your excuses for leaving a child without a father? I just don't think thats ok because you're saying your commitment for that person goes only as far as the bed.
2007-06-13 09:33:54 · 13 answers · asked by WhyANickname? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think anyone should be judged. If you don't like it you don't have to do it and save yourself. But say you save yourself till marriage who is to say you want get a divorce later on down the road. So actually what you are saying can happen to a couple or a married couple. So really what you are saying can happen to anyone married or not. So either way you go you just have to love that person and hope nothing hopes. Plus God gave us free will so we can live our lives as we want and not as someone else believe it should e lived.
2007-06-13 09:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by ~Army*Chick~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask why? People will do the most craziest things which makes no sense to the average person. There's no such thing as pre-marital sex. There are never any excuses to abandon a child for whatever reason. You are absolutely right about the activity only being the bed because there is no real commitment here. Real Men make Real Commitments.
2007-06-13 09:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off a person can still leave you with a child to raise on your own even if you do wait until you are married to have sex. There is really not a specific validation. It is a decision two people decide to take. If pre-marital sex is something you disagree with based on religion, etc then that is your preference.
2007-06-13 09:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by simply_ch0c0late 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband who I did not have premarital sex with, left me with two children and he is not held responsible for them in any way, and my current boyfriend who I have been with for 3 years without being married is more of a father to my children than their biological father. We have a serious committed relationship. Don't be so narrow minded. Just because you wait until marriage doesn't mean you won't end up in the same predicament as a woman who didn't wait.
2007-06-13 09:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by bebeangelsmami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very personal matter, and no single answer is right for everyone. And not all sex, marital or pre-marital, results in pregnancy. Don't be judgmental; no one is perfect.
2007-06-13 09:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice: let it go.
If you don't want to have sex until marriage, then don't have sex until marriage. Don't just people who do--just don't have sex before marriage if you don't agree with that.
People do have sex before marriage. It's a way of life. When I hear about 14, 15 year olds having sex, I cringe. But I don't believe I have a leg to stand on. The best thing you can do is to control your OWN life, not someone else's.
2007-06-13 09:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is the question of maturity and the exploitation of those who lack it. Other than that, if you rule out the religious arguments, there are very few valid ojections to premarital sex.
2016-04-01 05:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is entitled to live their live the way they want. Nobody is judging you for not believing pre-marital sex.
Leave the judging to God.
2007-06-13 09:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I am all for marital sex.Society is having a major moral decay and it get worse each day.
2007-06-13 09:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't wait until you grow up and realize that all these things your parents and your church are telling you are hogwash.
2007-06-13 09:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋