My parents are so overprotective of me! I'm a 19 yr old girl going into her sophmore year of college! They still make me ask permission to stay w/ a friend for a night or so, and they"have to talk to the parents. One time they told me that They had to talk to her mom because ot was a school nite for her. I'm like r u serious her mom doesn't care what she does and said I could come over netime(she's my best friend). I'm 19 I should b able to go to a friends house which is rite down the road w/o asking! and not only that they treat me like a 12 year old all the time! Sereously....
2007-06-13 09:05:57 · 14 answers · asked by DDsororitychick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can't move out because my parents said that if I move out they won't pay for my tuition for college and I have a summer job but it's not enough to pay everything and I can't work during the school year cause my major, sorority, and sports, take up to much time, and my dads a lawyer and my moms a teacher, so i can't get financial aid cause we get paid to much.
2007-06-13 09:46:50 · update #1
I've tried tsitting down and talking to them but they won't listen to anything i say they won't even start to, they cut me off from what I'm saying if they don't agree w/ somthing and then don't listen to anything I say.
2007-06-13 09:48:37 · update #2
Your 19 and shouldn't need permission from your parents to stay with a friend. Since talking to them doesn't work, finish college and get out! Just humor them for now, rember they are paying your way.
2007-06-20 17:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by redneckcowgirlmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 19, and in college. You shouldn't have to ask permission from your parents, nor do they need to be contacting other peoples parents anymore this stage in your life should be over. I think that they probably feel that they are paying for your education and they should have a right to make sure that you doing as you should and they should know everything that is going on. Are you an independant person or do you lean on them alot of the time? Is there anything that you are doing to make them think that they need to be this protective over you. Have you been in danger before? I know that my parents still to this day call to make sure that I am ok, and I am 30 years old, married, with 3 children. They are just parents and they never stop worrying about their children cut them alittle slack because believe me when you have children you understand all of this a whole lot more.
2007-06-19 07:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, for right now, they are footing your bills, you live in their house, then I strongly believe it is their way or the highway. Now the asking permission to stay with a friend at 19, it is a little far out there, I wouldn't say that asking permission should be needed but do discuss it with your Mom at the least. They love you and they do not want anything to befall their child, come on, don't be so hard on them, give them some credit, look at how you turned out thus far. God Bless.
2007-06-20 18:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are 19yrs. And you got to remember you still live at home. There are rules when living with someone. Maybe you need to talk to your parents about being to over protective, and that you want them to trust you, and you are a grown up in college. If that dont work, then maybe you should go find a roommate and move out. May sure you have a job, because your parents might not help you at all.
2007-06-18 06:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know maybe they are a little over protecting,but with good reasons...look how this world is today you can not be too carefull...I was the same way with my daughter..we were and still are best friends,now that she is a woman married and out on her own,I am so proud of her,now she knows how to live her life better,and one day will raise a great daughter too,all thanks for great parents and grandparents that started the trait,just go with the flow and be thankfull they even care enough to ask..some children dont have that..you could try talking to them one night while you guys have a family night...I hope you do...then air your problems I am sure they will lighten up some if you talk and have a good communication between you guys...goodluck and be proud.
2007-06-20 17:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by hotmommadru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very lucky. I had parents just like that and thought they were the worst for not letting me do whatever. In the end you come to realize thats a background for a strong foundation when you do get out their in the world on your own. its hard right now but when your done with college and working and probably starting a family you will understand and hopefully get to thank them then.
2007-06-13 09:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by maqi45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right you should not have to ask permission since your are an adult. Try sitting down and speaking with your parents and explain your are in adult now and can make your own decision since they did brought you up right. You are not a child and dont need to be veriiy informaiton to your friends parents. They must learn to trust you as you trust them. If they refuse to bend then you have two decision to make one bare it until you graduate & get a place of your own, or move out.
2007-06-13 09:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you have a choice then. Make the best of your parent's rules and continue to receive their support. Or find a way to make it on your own so you can make your own rules. What we out here think doesn't matter one whit to your parents and they are holding all the money you need to finish your degree if you think your sorority and other activities are that important.
2007-06-14 07:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're basically getting a free ride. They sponsor everything you do, yet you're upset when they want to know exactly where you're going to be? Sugar, I'd humor them just because they're letting you live in their house with lots of perks when many parents would have shoveled you out after HS graduation.
2007-06-20 12:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are under their roof. But you are grown. I left home for similar reasons. i finished school I have my MA, worked and began my family all in a timely fashion. It is all about your will.
2007-06-21 05:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by Dede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋