Our nephew is getting married this Saturday and we will not be attending the wedding. When we first got the invitation I read it wrong and it is for June, not July like I thought, so I need help. I have no idea what to get them or am I even suppossed to send something since we won't be attending. They were not at our wedding and sent no gift, we don't speak regularly--I've only met him once in the 4 years my husband and I have been together. I'm really not sure about their tastes or likes so I don't know what to get. Just a card, a card with cash, nothing, a gift? Help, quick!
2007-06-13 09:03:20 · 9 answers · asked by jilldaniel_wv 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Phantom-- Yes, I am from WV. We live in a small town outside of Huntington.
2007-06-13 09:20:49 · update #1
Are you from WV like your screen name suggests? If you are in a big city, perhaps $50 is not much but if you are from a smaller area it is a LOT of money.
Spend what you can afford. Don't let their behavior (they didn't send a gift or card) affect yours. Since you aren't close and don't know what to get, I'd send either a check or a gift card.
From what I have observed, the average wedding gift is $20-30. Since you aren't that close, $20-25 is acceptable. Make sure whatever store you pick is near them and something that has mass appeal like Target, Home Depot, or Bed Bath and Beyond.
2007-06-13 09:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette-wise anyone who receives an invitation to a wedding sends a gift. Of course, this etiquette stems from the fact that only those closest to the bride & groom would receive an invitation to such a personal event.
Nowadays, a lot people invite everyone they have ever met to a wedding. If you don't know the people, send them a congratulatory card at least. If you would like to send a gift, send what you can afford. Money or gift card would be fine.
2007-06-13 09:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's entirely up to you whether to send a gift or not.
If you do choose to give a gift, you have any number of choices. If you know they are registered somewhere, you can always have something from their registry sent to them or send a gift card for that store. You can send a check. You can send a gift that you think they'll enjoy that isn't from the registry.
Really, it's entirely up to you.
The one thing I'd recommend against is sending cash through the mail. It's too easy for it to get stolen and then there's no way to trace it.
If you want to keep in any contact with this side of the family, I would at least send a nice card with good wishes and congratulations. Beyond that, it's your choice.
2007-06-13 09:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to, pick up a gift card or send a check. The gesture & thought are what matter most.
The fact that he did not attend your wedding or send a gift reflects on him. Whether you acknowledge his happy day reflects on YOU.
2007-06-13 09:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum brides will register at aim, mattress tub and previous, or LinensNThings, Macy's (or some branch save of their section), Williams Sonoma. I relatively have additionally seen couples register at Lowe's or domicile Depot. which isn't a undesirable theory because of fact while they pass right into a house they are able to purchase paint, flowers, or different issues that continuously are not seen till you very own a house. unique presents could be paintings, silver, crystal vase or bowl, excitement of Cooking Cookbook (an important in each kitchen for a beginner to a expert) with a private inscription and a superb wood spoon.
2016-10-09 03:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card is appropriate, if you feel strange not sending something else, I wold send a small monetary gift, maybe $50, but it is not necessary to send a gift at all.
2007-06-13 09:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your nephew's parents (your siblings/in laws) where the bride & groom are registered. You should be able to access the registry online. Any of the items they have chosen will be very much appreciated, and you should be able to find one within a price range that makes you comfortable. It should also be no problem to have it sent to their house, instead of your own, so you won't have to worry about how to deliver it since you're not going to the wedding.
2007-06-13 09:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend a Congrats card and a gift card to like Target (50 bucks) afterall you guys arent' that close. Just keep it simple.
2007-06-13 09:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card w/ a check. Write them a nice message too.
2007-06-13 09:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋