I assume that it is possible to "try too hard" to meet someone. I think that is my problem. Whenever I do meet a new girl, I try too hard to get her to like me and we end up fighting somehow. And now I haven't been close to having a gf in over a year. Advice?
2007-06-13 08:33:50 · 11 answers · asked by bluedevil1642 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Example:
Met a girl last year. Hung out almost every day for a couple weeks. It was my first two weeks of living at college. We got pretty close. During the time, she said she liked guys that were themselves. So, I told her just about everything about myself over the two weeks. Suddenly, she starts avoiding me. When I ask why, she says I'm lecturing her on right and wrong (I simply stated my opinions!) and she doesn't want to even see me anymore. Adds "The only reason I hung out with you was because I knew you were from out-of-state and didn't have any friends."
2007-06-13 08:42:51 · update #1
If you try too hard, you'll end up chasing the girls away. Just be yourself hang out and take it a little slow. Girls like a bit of a challenge, if its too easy, it almost seems there must be something wrong with the guy.
Just chill and play it slow... the girls will be chasing after you in no time ;-)
2007-06-13 08:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax when you meet a girl if she likes you she likes you if she don't let her go stop trying and just be you after all that is what you want is a girl to like and accept you for who you are because when you try to hard you end up being someone you are not then you have to keep pretending so she would like the person you created always be yourself there is someone out there that would like you for you relax and enjoy life and it will happen soon enough if you stop trying to make it happen
2007-06-13 15:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the problem! You need help! You need to learn to be yourself, but you also need to learn not to be so desperate. That's what it looks like. You need to be smooth and relaxed. You have to work on that! Good luck!
2007-06-13 15:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who has theat same problem. I try to help him but he never listens to me. I cant think of what to say at the moment, but dont be pushy.
good luck
2007-06-13 15:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more info. Why do you end up fighting? Give an example.
2007-06-13 15:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by just helping out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try being friends first and then try asking who the girl likes then if she says u ask her out. its a process with that kinda stuff.
2007-06-13 15:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by elaina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi take it easy dont rush when u are with someone cause if u rush everthing comes out wrong so take your time
SV
2007-06-13 15:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by sweet vanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax dude... We like guys that are just comfortable with themselves! We can sense fear, and we know when your faking it! "Trying too hard, I mean" he he
2007-06-13 15:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy....you will not find a gf on first date......although I did tell my wife of 23 yrs on first date was going to marry her......slow down
2007-06-13 15:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant give u advice i have the same prob
srry hope u find ur answer : )
2007-06-13 15:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by aquariusgrl93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋