relationshipsss. help me out.?

Question

I always want a boyfriend, but mainly I think I'm after sex. When I think about having a boyfriend the only thing I'm really looking for is sex. I hate randomly hooking up (most of the time) because I often feel used. And I have cheated on boyfriends before but it wasn't anything personal, I myself hate being cheated on but when I do it, it doesn't feel wrong because I have no connection with the person I'm cheating with. I know its still wrong and I'm working on it. so tell me do you think I really want a relationship? Or do I just like to fu ck around? It sounds like all i want is to mess around, but other times I just don't know.. it would be nice to have someone actually care about me.. im so confused.

Answer 1

You feel used but you are using them yourself. Either be honest about it and tell them that you just want sex or start a relationship.
I don't see your problem and no one knows what you want, you're the only person to know that.

Answer 2

You already know the answer to your own question, and being honest with yourself (even though you fnd that conclusion unpalatable) will allow you to deal honestly with the men in your life. If you don't want a boyfriend right now don't enter into that type of arrangement. "Cheating" scars people and they, in turn, scar the next person when it's so unnecessary. There are plenty of men interested in only casual encounters. There's no need to damage someone looking in earnest for a more committed arrangement. They'll be there when you're finally ready for commitment, and you won't have damaged your karma in the process by being an untrustworthy person. We all go through phases where we need different things at different times. There's nothing inherently wrong with that. Just try to do that as honestly as you can. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

You're just not ready for a commit to another person. Maybe you just want to be with different guys to find out what type you like or which one you wanna be with.