ok Im 20 and im still a virgin.. Ive got a boyfriend and he obviously wants to do it but im not ready and i want my first time to be with my husband, but i love my boyfriend and i dont want to loose him.. wht should i do?
2007-06-13 07:56:42 · 51 answers · asked by confused.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he truly loves you he won't pressure you into it. He won't have to scare you, force you, pressure you into it. He will respect you for you values and beliefs. Make him wait.
The only true love is one freely given by another person openly without fear.
Sex is a powerful thing. It has the power to give life(baby). It has the power to take it away(AIDS). If you're not willing to sacrifice yourself to one of these then don't do it. Make him wait.
There are no shortage of unwed young moms around the world who regret what they did. I bet every single one of them thought, "I won't get pregnant."
Please don't be that foolish making the same mistake. make him wait.
2007-06-13 08:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by Michael M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell your boyfriend that your not ready and if he dosen't listen then he's not the man for you because if he loves you to he would respect that. but don't think that he's a perv or he only wants sex. all guys wanna have sex but they only want to do it as soon as possible because there afraid they'll stay virgins for the rest of there lives or to prove there manly.so don't do any thing you don't want to do and when the time comes it comes.oh an if your thinking you want your first time to be romantic,don't get your hopes up cuz most of the time its not
2007-06-13 08:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by ruffus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if her respects you, he will honor your commitment. You are only 20, chances are this is not going to be the only guy you will be with. * trust me* The type of guy you are willing to meet/ one day marry is not going to meet you tomorrow. It will take a lot of searching to find "the one". Im 28 and still havent found her. Though I have met a few that make me think they might be her. Bottom line - Dont rush sex on the count of someone else. Do it only when you are ready.
2007-06-13 08:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by osanchris 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Just keep telling him how you feel and that when your ready he will know it.
If it gets to the point that you feel he may leave then you decide if some sort of hand or mouth relief for him will do the job while you remain a virgin. Whatever you do, keep safe sex in mind.
2007-06-13 08:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT TILL YOU ARE MARRIED! If you are not ready then don't do it. Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. I love that you want to wait to have sex until your married. Keep that promise. No matter how much you love him, if YOU are not ready, don't make yourself ready just to make him happy. If he really can't wait then you need to leave him .I know how hard that can be. I've been in a simmilar situation but don't just give in if your not ready. Stick to your morals and if he doesn't like it, he's not for you. You can do better :)
2007-06-13 08:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suppose times have changed since I was young but I wouldnt tolerate pressure from anyone.
Fella's are going to try their luck -thats nature but if you explain, he should respect your wishes and feelings.
Daftoldwoman says ...the man that makes you cry isnt worth the tears and the man who is worth the tears wont make you cry.
Good luck and may I say how refreshing to see a young lady with principles.
2007-06-13 08:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by daftoldwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stick to your guns. if its how you feel and your boyfriend loves you then he would respect your feelings on the matter. dont let him talk you into it or your gonna regret it. your not ready and you shouldn't do anything your not ready for. i know you don't want to loose him but ask yourself this, if he walks away from you cos you wont give him sex, what kind of a man is he?! not one that respects you that's for sure. stick to your guns girl. if he wants to get into your knickers he better walk you down the aisle first. good on you.
2007-06-13 08:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it.
You've already answered your own question yourself....."but I'm not ready".
You are not ready, so don't. When you are ready, and you will know when this is, then you can. It is as simple as that.
If your boyfriend really loves you and wants you, he will wait for you. Don't do it just to please him and so that you don't lose him. It doesn't work that way and you may regret it.
2007-06-13 08:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by cobweb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first how long have yall been dating? if its along time and u feel secure in the relationship than i say go for it. but if yall anit dated that long and he says he loves you and if he really means it he will wait. i dated a boy once for a yr and a month or two and we broke up unexspectedly( if i would of i would of been devistated). Thank god i didn't do him. but no one can make that choice for u u must make it urself.
2007-06-13 08:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by johndeeregurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never feel pressurised into doing anything, feel the pressure and you've got no chance in doing it let alone enjoying it. Wait for the right night, and make sure he is the one!! Take care
2007-06-13 08:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by charlesandamanda01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋