Have any of you ever been completely insecure, quiet, introverted, unsure of them selves and then all of the sudden seens the light and been able to change and become outgoing, self assured...etc? Or is this something I have to battle my whole life?
2007-06-13 07:53:54 · 14 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Mm, yes...! I was.... very quiet, insecure.... I felt I was worth nothing.
But, I met someone, and he told me something I thought I'd never hear from someone... he told me that he "valued me". I had never been told that before. After that, just SEEING that person gave me a rush of... I wanna say, courage. I felt that even I was worth something... after that, I would try to give him more reasons to value me, and that was to speak up, and tell him things I normally wouldn't.
That's something that helped, like, majorly... but, start with little things.... like, just little random things about yourself! Then, see... see that people care what you think!
I'm sure, there are people that feel this way towards you! And, trust me... no one judges you as much as you think they do. I know that there are people that you know, who want you to.. at least take a peek out of your shell! I know it's hard... having an inferiority complex.... but........
Try to find someone... just one person that will make you feel as if you're equals....! I know it doesn't seem that way now... but there ARE people who don't look down on you :).
I'll pray that... wherever that person is... they will come to you, because you need them....
I hope the best for you!
2007-06-13 13:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, do I ever know what you're talking about. I was so shy when I was a kid, literally everyone thought I was deaf. I'm 26 now, and I've come a long way out of my shell, but I'm still an introvert. I don't think I can ever change that, it's just the way my mind works. I take care of things myself, in my own head. But the insecurity and shyness has diminished in the past few years, mostly because I got out in the work place and was forced to communicate w/ people. I don't' know about you becoming outgoing, but you can certainly be self assured. You do have to work on it, though. You have to face it if you want to change it.
2007-06-13 08:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jezabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During my middle school and high school years i was very quiet, shy, and only talked to a hand full of people.
When I went to college i forced myself to get out there and meet new people and change my personality.
All it takes is a new fresh start.
Confidence is a huge factor. Once you get enough to be that person it becomes addicting and you wont 2nd guess yourself.
I hope this helps!
2007-06-13 07:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep.... I always do that around ppl or when i feel insecure around somebody... I am naturally happy but when i dont like somebody i act sort of depressed and get sort of a dull sound in my voice but when i'm with my friends then i have
a great time so i would suggest finding some ppl that you feel happy and secure with!
If you need anymore advice just e-mail me!
2007-06-13 08:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's called maturity. But it doesn't happen suddenly. I assume you're a teenager. You will become more assured and outgoing, but it will happen very slowly as you mature and your personality forms fully. Hang in there!
2007-06-13 08:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by july 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't usually happen overnight. I have always been very shy and introverted, and it has taken years to get past it. The best way seems to be to put yourself in situations that require you to be social.
2007-06-13 07:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Deidre W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecure you can work on it takes time for everyone and it ebbs and flows through out life for some. introversion and extroversion are a way to describe if you get your energy from inside yourself or from the outside world and both have contribute necessary and positive things to the world and their relationships. think more about your goals and how to achieve them. i think that's a better thing to focus on.
2007-06-13 08:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theoretically any such change is possible, but chances are rather slim. Better take help from health professionals, not necessarily of main stream.
2007-06-13 07:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go toward the light, you can change.
2007-06-13 08:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by vickie m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm, yeah, sorta.if your successes while being outgoing keep building, you'l keep down that path, but if you get shot down consistantly, you'l revert to the first.
2007-06-13 07:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by maxturbo211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋