We are both in our twenties, and he's a very protective older brother. But, he doesn't treat me as an adult, and neither does he act like one. We like acting goofy with each other, and I love him to death. But, our personalities are not the same. He's more of the laid-back type, while I'm more "aggressive", I guess. Anyway, I feel bad for snapping back at him. We met after a long time (he lives a little far), but it was he who brought up the quarrel. I didn't talk to him for one whole day, and now I feel like a bad sister. I've been trying to talk to him, but he doesn't appear too willing. I feel guilty 'cos when he tried it this morning, I appeared kinda mad.
What do I do? Am I overreacting? He and I are the only ones in the family, besides our parents, and when he goes back, I don't want him to take bad memories with him.
2007-06-13 07:21:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It appear to me that you and your brother need to sit down and talk. Just lay it on the line about how you feel. It sounds as if your brother is like my brother used to be. My brother has eased up alot now that I'm married. But he used to be over protective of me. I didn't say nothing to him about it but eventually he lighten up.
One thing I want you to understand, your parents probably told your brother like my parents told my brother. The word of advice was, always be there for your sister and take up for her no matter what. I want the two of you to have each other back. You are her brother and I'm looking for you to take care of her when we are not around.
THat is basically what your brother is doing. Don't push him away just talk to him. He is family so it shouldn't be hard. He loves you and that is why he is so over protective. He doesn't want nothing to happen to you. Don't let your brother leave without the two of you talking the issue out. Please! You only have one brother and you really need to make peace with him. I have seen people over and over again holding a grudge against their love ones about issues that happened maybe two or three years ago. It is not worth it. With this old world we are living in, it is best to just bury it and move on. People are dying to quickly to hold grudges. Hug your brother, tell him you love him, and just let it go!!!! Life is too short!!! Good luck to ya!
2007-06-13 07:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by jetta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it’s really cool that you have got great brother. See in some way quarrels are the way to express love. Someone has said that we quarrel with those whom we love. So let give yourself some time and even give him some time. Then after a while talk to him. you can send him a cute card saying sorry or something like that.
2007-06-13 07:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by magnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try approachin him and talking about whatever it was he said or did that got you upset in the first place. You're not a bad sister, you just needed time to cool off before talking to him, it seems. If he still doesn't appear willing to talk about it, tell him "I'd really like for us to talk about this" Communication is one of the keys in any relationship. Good luck and hope you two can come to a resolution :)
2007-06-13 07:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ohioguy95 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!!
His your older brother and has every right to worry about you, I would do the same if i had a smaller sister.
Girl just don't ignore him make the effort to talk to him and when the time is right tell him UR sorry if U said anything wrong and that your old enough to take care of your own,
But he has every right to his opinion and don't just brush it off, as he is older and know a lot more.
Hope This Helps
Neville
2007-06-13 07:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by neville_ram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no longer yet. i'm a freshman in HS and that i wanna make a solid effect with my instructors. plus 2 cuts (skips) from a classification = loss of credit. yet i plan on skipping a minimum of as quickly as by capacity of the tip of the 365 days.
2016-10-07 10:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by elzey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out for lunch or go do something together. It is always fun to have some alone time with siblings. Try acting nice to him even when he says some rude things. Try telling him how glad you are that he is your brother and how lucky you are to have him. Simple words like that will mean a lot to him.
2007-06-13 07:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to him wrap your arms around him, squeeze tight, look him in the eyes and say your sorry and that you love him. don't have to explain what went wrong.. the past is the past. focus on the moment and the time you two have left together.
2007-06-13 07:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him open that door - look having a family member that you like and like you is half the battle. Because famliy is nice to have around to share things with.
2007-06-13 07:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're overreacting. you need to make up so when he goes home, you both feel good. tell him what you wrote here. tell him you're sorry you aren't talking and you miss him.
2007-06-13 07:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're sorry. If he's still upset at least you know you apologized before he left.
2007-06-13 07:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by B D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋