ok. here's the 411. i'm in high school, about to be a junior, in a small town. about 2500 ppl. about 2 months ago, i noticed that this girl was paying more attention to me than normal.(inviting me into her group projects, tickling, ect.) so naturally i flirted back. well from there, we've been talking a lot more, and we've hung out a few times, mostly just at the beach. she always throws sand at me, and i throw it back, we splash around in the water, i grabbed her around the waist and dragged her in with me once... haha it was fun. but then we went for a walk, but she didnt really say anything. when she kinda wandered around, i just let her after a while. we met back up in about 20 mins and she didnt seem like she wanted to talk at all. so i left her alone. she gave me a ride home, and it was realllly awkward because neither of us said more than 5 words the whole time. since then i've been worried that she realized that i'm interested in her, but she's not into me. what do you think?
2007-06-13 06:12:20 · 11 answers · asked by T Saari 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
another thing that concerns me, is that she is known to flirt a lot. my friend warned me of this when i told him i liked her, but i just blew it off. I rarely see her flirt with other guys, especially when i'm around. it seems i'm the center of attention... most of the time.
2007-06-13 06:22:22 · update #1
That's kind of strange. She obviously wanted some space to think. She's probably confused about how she feels about you. Either that, or you accidently said something that hurt her feelings and you didn't realize it. I'd try talking to her and just asking if everything is okay because she seemed a little detached last time you saw her. At least let her know that you care about whats going on with her.
2007-06-13 06:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by BrunetteBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is interested in you. It sounds like you two are at the point to where you make something of it, or you deny how you feel about each other and the friendship ends. Tell her how you feel. It's the guys responsibility to be the first one to put themselves out there in the vulnerable position. Some people may say that is a little sexist, but it's true. The rules of courting haven't changed. Women still like to be pursued, guys still like to chase.
Just FYI, completely forget about what your friends think about you two. Don't try to be the cool guy, and don't brag to your friends about what you two do or don't do. A relationship is personal. Don't take relationship advise from someone you've never seen in a truly successful relationship (i.e. marraige) As far as the High School era goes, from what I've gathered from pretty much every girl I ever dated, guys usually blow it trying to impress everyone except themselves and the girl they're dating. It's not about everyone else. It's not about what they think. It's not about being the coolest. It's about what makes your heart happy, and wanting to see your significant other happyy too.
2007-06-13 13:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jason S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is into you to, but maybe shes scarred. Are you two at different levels of popularity in school? Is scarred her friends will make fun of her? Or maybe her family has rules against dating. I would talk to her and ask her about it, but don't be to forward girls hate that. Instead call her up and see if she wants to go out just you two and take it from there. If she says yes and things go ok I would leave it alone and write it off as a weird day.
2007-06-13 13:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your description, she really likes you a lot. She probably expected a bit more from you. Call her and have a casual conversation or ask her to go somewhere with you. Don't bring up the awkward ride unless she does, then tell her how you feel about it. This way you'll know for sure how she feels.
2007-06-13 13:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh tough one. she may have gotten quiet b/c u didn't really talk to her on that walk or b/c u kinda let her walk alone instead of walkin w her??? regardless, i'd stick with the same act, do nothing more but nothing less. Just be how you always were and see where she takes it. u'll be able to tell, or pick up a vibe, and if she continues acting strange, ask her what's up with the change of heart?
2007-06-13 13:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by platinum66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she really liked you and since you hung out and stuff you were sorta a couple. I think that during the 20 min. that she took a walk she met a cuter guy and was over you. Sorry.
2007-06-13 13:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Cooℓ Smιℓεys :D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might've been flirting to get your attention and then when she got it there was no need to flirt anymore just try and start a conversation with her and hang out like you did at the beach when you dragged her in xxxxxxxxxxx hope this helpss
2007-06-13 13:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she probably did realize that you're interested in her and she's just not sure what she wants. the way you guys were acting sounds like she likes you back but i think she's just not sure what she wants. try talking to her and see what's up
2007-06-13 13:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by Mandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should try to be her friend 1st to really see what she thinks of u... she may just be looking for a good friend
2007-06-13 13:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by babyblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend and see what happens.
2007-06-13 13:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋