Girlfriend~Rachel
Other Girl~ Bethany
See Bethany was a christian and now feels as though God doesn't hear her when she prays and is slowly giving up. I have been where she is and want to help. But here is the thing if i do then Rachel is going to be mad. See Bethany likes me and Rachel is afraid that something will happen. I love Rachel with all my heart, but feel the need to reach out...
I have prayed and feel the need to reach out anyway... do you think i am right to risk the love of my life?
2007-06-13
06:07:15
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I have asked and Rachel said that she couldn't possibly talk to her friend about this... i am not sure why?
2007-06-13
06:13:23 ·
update #1
Look. I will not cheat on Rachel. Since we have been together i have turned down 5 people. And Bethany is no different.
2007-06-13
06:14:39 ·
update #2
I thought that i could turn here for help, but to me there looks like a lot of minds that are far from good. People have let society creep into their heads and have set a standard for me without meeting me. I have already chosen the answer that i want. But let me say that i am dissapointed in some of you. You need to re-evalue your whole look on relationships.
2007-06-13
06:37:50 ·
update #3
As Christians, we are supposed to reach out and give comfort and help to our fellow christians.
This is a tricky situation, because Rachel might feel you might cheat on her.
If Rachel is a christian as well, ask her to go with you and the two of you go talk to Bethany. If she balks, remind her of the verse. "Where two or more are gathered in my name, there I am." If she still won't go, then you can gently rebuke her and remind her what a Christian is and how they help other people.
I have the feeling that if Rachel goes with you, and sees that nothing will happen, she'll offer some help too.
2007-06-13 06:14:56
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answer #1
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answered by josephwiess 3
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Male/Female interactions always have potential for misinterpretation. If Bethany needs help, you do need to help her but you also need to be very careful.
You might have the purest intentions, but you already know that Bethany likes you, and you are going to be talking about a very intimate topic, God, so there is a huge potential here to inadvertantly lead her on. You might do all you can to avoid it, and she might still misread the situation in her vulnerable emotional state right now and try something foolish like asking you out. Then she'll feel like a fool when you reject her and she'll be even more hurt and confused when the person helping her rejects her.
So, and I can't emphasize this enough, you can't just be with her one on one. That is asking for trouble.
My suggestion - either try to see her with other people, or try to get someone else to help her, probably preferably female.
May God be with you all, and particularly Bethany.
2007-06-13 06:21:47
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answered by penguineditor 2
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The love of your life is God and Jesus. Explain to Rachel that you have no interest in Bethany.
"Love is never Jealous". And if Rachel truly loves you she will trust you!
Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-06-13 06:17:01
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answered by Mrs. Bear 4
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Is Rachel a Christian? If so, ask her to help Bethany. That way, you won't have any contact with her, and it will be a good barometer on your girlfriend's attitude. If Rachel isn't saved, well, do what you believe is wisest.
2007-06-13 06:14:27
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answered by Anonymous
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Is Rachel a christian? If so she should understand. I agree with the other answers you should involve her in what you are going to do. Pray some more. Good luck.
2007-06-13 06:16:38
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answered by Suzie 3
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If you feel you need to reach out do so regardlesss of the possible consequences. You must be willing to give up anything and everything to serve the Lord Jesus. Jesus said if you love land, your parents, your children, wife, anything more than him you are unwothrthy of him. Just be careful so that Bethany dosnt get hurt afterwards.
2007-06-13 07:15:25
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answered by Anonymous
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Ask Rachel to be there to support you in this endeavor to help Bethany.
2007-06-13 06:23:55
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answered by ogphatboi 3
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If she is really the love of your life, and you are positive that nothing fishy is going to happen, and she has no reason to think you'd cheat on her, then she should understand. You are just trying to help someone. Perhaps you can convince Rachel to HELP you instead of going it solo and looking like you're up to something. That is what I would do.
2007-06-13 06:10:41
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answered by Mr. Taco 7
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Your girlfriend should take into consideration that you are merly trying to help a friend in need. Its not like your cheating on your girlfriend. If she thinks this, there must be a reason she is so insecure. Have you cheated on her before or given her reason to? Also, do you flirt with this girl and sometimes us guys flirt when we dont even know were doing it. Taking that into consideration, first sit your girlfriend down and explain what your doing and why your doing it, listen to her reaction and please dont interrupt her when shes talking.
2007-06-13 06:14:24
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answered by Par 4 7
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do what ever you have to do to keep another person from burning in hell for eternity your girlfriend should understand and besides life is temporary as long as you make it to heaven and save as many others as you can thats all that matters. The other things should come second.
2007-06-13 06:13:51
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answered by Jordan 1
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