You enter a relationship, if you or the other person has children how long before you introduce them to your new mate? And suppose this is someone you plan to be in a long term relationship with, how long do you think it should take to establish a relationship between the kids and the new mate?
I like to ask hypothetical questions. This question has absolutely nothing to do with me. I'm just curious to know how other people would handle certain situations.
2007-06-13 05:39:49 · 14 answers · asked by stacy_branch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Immediately because it is not fair to my child to hide something from himthat will also have impact on his life.The opinions of my child are very important to me esspecially when he is concerned. I am an adult and I have the right to decide but I don't "terrorize" my child with that.
2007-06-21 05:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Wintermute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let them know as soon as possible that you have kids. I've known people who didn't let the person know for months they had a child and it was quite a shock for them to find out and it didn't always turn out for the best. A person should know right away what they are in for. If one has a child then they should be introduced right away.
Getting hooked up with someone who has a child is a 'package deal' and it will require a certain type to handle that. There's a whole new dynamic to it. If the child doesn't like the new addition he/she can make life miserable for everyone. It's only fair for both the child and the new partner to meet and hopefully hit it off.
2007-06-21 10:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Domino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a full time single dad, I always introduced my son to anyone who I thought might have a chance to be the one. There were a few dates who I knew where not the one, who I did not introduce him to. Since we were a package deal I had to make sure he approved or here and vise versa. He was between 3 and 7 during this period. He is a good kid, with a big heart so I knew that he had to be just as in love with his new stepmom as I did.
It worked! I am now happily married and the 3 of us get along great together.
Hope that helps!
Dan
2007-06-13 13:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never wait! And be sure you know if they are ok with kids. I cannot tell you the problems that arose back when my mom got re-married. The guy didn't like kids, never spoke to me and my brother. We barely knew him and that caused alot of rocky roads later on. The best thing is introduce them and get them into at least a friendly relationship. It will be vary good. The older the children the harder it might be, but the nicer it will make things later on.
2007-06-21 11:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think each situation is different but if it looks like I'll be dating someone exclusively I would start including my boyfriend in family activities a bit at a time. Over a few months, I would expect to see a bond forming between them.
2007-06-13 12:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by angelfish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You always wait to see if the guy is going to be around for awhile, or a candidate for something more serious, then, you still wait longer yet. You don't want to give children the wrong impression by introducing them to a lot of your "dates."
2007-06-13 12:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by goldieelocks666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well of course you tell him/her about them, but me and my current gf waited a good 2 months or so before introducing each other to out children. you just dont want your kids seeing you with all kinds of people
2007-06-21 01:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by partly smart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally wait 6 months before bring anyone around my children
2007-06-13 12:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i 'd want to get it out there to make sure he's ok with it and if he's going to be able to handle kids if it turns into a long term relationship
2007-06-13 12:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no set answer for this if you and the person is going to spend time together you cant sneak around this is what your children will learn and they in turn will hide who and what they do,
if you or the person is just passing through then don't bring it home !
2007-06-21 12:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by tofatandblack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋