My son's father lives in California, (my dream hometown). My son is 12 months old. His father has seem him a total of 3 times in his life. All of which I have taken my son to see him. He makes no efforts to try to communicate with me regarding my son. He has never done anything for him in the entire year. I recently went to visit Cali, and it is so beautiful there that I just want to move there. I think that by moving there, he may do more for my son if our distance is closer. I must also add that he has a live-in woman that existed even before I had my son. Even with that, when I come in town, he tries to meet up with me for us to be intimate. I feel that is the only way to get him to see my son when I'm visiting. Is it a good idea for me to relocate so I can bring the two of them closer?
2007-06-13 05:00:55 · 6 answers · asked by churchnina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think it will make much of a difference. If anything, your son will see what Dad is really all about.
2007-06-13 05:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Queenie knows it all. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your subject is right on the money DEAD BEAT DADDY...Like the saying goes, "anyone can be a daddy, but it takes a real man to be a father."
It's clear that the guy you had your child by doesn't want to have anything to do with you or the baby, so why even consider relocating only to be used by him for sex...The same way you jump on a plane to go see him, his lazy behind can do the same thing in return if he really wanted to be apart of you guys lives...Think child...The guy doesn't want a family or doesn't want one from you...Stop giving him the goodies and you will see his true colors show (as if they haven't already)
2007-06-13 12:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind moving there, I don't see how it could hurt anything, anyway. And, it opens up the possiblity that your child could have a better relationship with his father, which could be great.
But, don't expect fairytale magic to happen, either. Just do your best, keep your dignity and pride, stay positive for your child & hope that it all works out for him.
I truly admire parents who, politely, creatively & civilly, make the extra effort to help their child's other parent learn how to give their child what they need from them. So many of us take so much pride in our parenting achievements. If it's something to be proud of, that means we put some effort and skill into the job. Not everyone comes by that kind of effor t& skill naturally - some people need to be taught how to do it. And, every good teacher knows that almost everyone can be taught, you just need to find out how they learn before presenting the lesson. So, study your child's father. Try to figure out what it would take for him to learn how to give your child what he needs. Then, with all dignity & pride & kindness, try to reach him.
I think you should make it clear to him, right from the start, though, that you will not have any kind of romantic or sexual relationship with him. What kind of example would that be setting for you child in the future - both of you involved in being dishonest with your ex'es girlfriend?
2007-06-13 13:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont come around any more. I have the same problem with my daughters dead beat dad we live less than five min apart and he still wont come around and wants nothing to do with her. He wont change no matter how close or far apart you live from each other. if you want to move to Cali go for it but don't do it if you think it will change your child's dad that just wont happen
2007-06-13 12:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you have to force the situation? Your already carrying the burden on your own if seeing his son is important to him he should make the effort.
2007-06-13 12:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, NO....
2007-06-13 12:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋