All the woman do is nag. She orders my brothers and I to do this and that all the time. She only does it when my Father be at work. I don't mind doing housechores, but her lazy behind can do some work, too. She's a heavyset woman, so she uses her weight as an excuse not to do anything. Yet, she eats like a hog. Sometimes, it don't be any food left. Another thing I don't like she's nicer to her irresponsible daughter. she let her daughter, her boyfriend, and their 3 kids come live with us until they find a place to stay. Without asking my Father. Her boyfriend stayed in the streets all day without looking for a job, and my step sister always have me or my step mom to watch the kids while she be in the steet. My step mom be complaining that her back hurt, and she gonna tell her daughter to leave. Then when my step sister comes back(late) my step mom don't mention her getting the boot. How can I let my step mom know what kind of person she is without making her upset?
2007-06-13 05:00:35 · 8 answers · asked by Jamaican P.Y.T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is best never to reason with your step mother. The situation is endless and since you are not her biological child it does not mean she can give really care about you nonetheless. You can try to reason with her, but there is a 50/50 chance she will consider how you feel about her actions and attitude towards you. It is best that you speak with your father openly about the matter. Tell him what is going on when he leaves to go to work and tell him how it has really pressured you and upset you, then tell him that you've had enough and that it is effecting you in so many ways. Most importantly tell him what you think is best for the family then ask him what he thinks the resolve should come down to. When you discuss this matter with him make sure that it is just you and your father and no one eles. It is best that you go to a park or somewhere other than the home where no one can interfere with the discussion of the matter. What ever the matter comes to see if there is an alternative resolve, if there isn't then do the best that you can to try to be independent. Get a job, save money, go to school and find a career. That might be your only chance of leaving that miserable place.
2007-06-13 05:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by ger180man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a good relationship with your father? I think you should talk things over with him, first and foremost. Let him know how you are feeling and what is happening. At this point, maybe he can talk to the step-mom with you. Maybe she has no idea how she is acting towards you.
However, she could just be a complete hag and never change. Just remember, your father married her for a reason (he loves her) and you need to respect that.
It sounds like your situation is not fun and it may not improve. If this is the case, suck it up and focus on all the things in your life that make it good....and look forward to the day you get to move out!
Good luck.
2007-06-13 05:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by Santana57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm an adult now and still can't stand mine. My step mom caused me so much hell during my childhood which resulted in my sister and I not having a relationship with my Dad. Im in my twenties and probally see him once a year because of her. What's sad is I have a son now and he doesn't even visit him. He has a closer relationship with her kids and that does hurt but we just go on with life. I wish I could say it will get better but it probally won't. Broken homes make life hell for the children. Thats why I look down on parents who bail out on thier family! Just try to stay sane!
2007-06-13 05:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a never ending battle. I have a step-mom. You need to talk to your dad. Tell him how you feel. Let them both know, that you don't appreciate the fact that her daughter is using you and her as babysitter's so she can go out in the street. All you can do is try.
2007-06-13 05:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to answer first with a more extreme idea....if there is joint custody, can you go and live with your mom (if that is at all possible).
If that isn't possible, then you and your brothers must sit down with your father and explain to him what's going on. But it must be done with one voice and not with malice.
2007-06-13 05:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its your dads house too, tell your dad. i got a step mom too and i cant stand her! eather!! u have to be honest with her about the problems and tell her to get off her fat *** and do something. if that dont work, try and brake her up with ur father, it may work lol
2007-06-13 12:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This Reminds me of Cinderella
Well anyawyz You shud talk to ur dad
2007-06-13 09:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by babyblue2pie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough. wish I could help.
2007-06-13 05:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋